Comments on: Be Sure to Marry with Your Eyes Open (Real Housewives of Atlanta Style) http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 00:17:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: bud glass vase http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-25972 bud glass vase Mon, 17 May 2010 07:31:06 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-25972 I'm really satisfied with this posting you've all of us. This is truly the stupendous work done through a person. Thank you and looking for more articles by you. I’m really satisfied with this posting you’ve all of us. This is truly the stupendous work done through a person. Thank you and looking for more articles by you.

]]> By: jane doe http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17730 jane doe Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:49:04 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17730 I too found it amazing that she was 'so in love' with him after such a short time, but what was worse was that it seemed like EVERYONE that knew and liked her thought that this relationship was crazy. Hats off to her mom.... Who would want that for a son in law? 6 kids= mega child support If kandi were to marry him it would be like Kandi had 8 kids (him, her daughter and the 6 he brings to the marriage) She was too good for that mess. (isn't every woman?) glad for her mom that this is over. She will thank her lucky stars in a year or two I too found it amazing that she was ‘so in love’ with him after such a short time, but what was worse was that it seemed like EVERYONE that knew and liked her thought that this relationship was crazy.
Hats off to her mom….
Who would want that for a son in law?

6 kids= mega child support

If kandi were to marry him it would be like Kandi had 8 kids (him, her daughter and the 6 he brings to the marriage)

She was too good for that mess.
(isn’t every woman?)
glad for her mom that this is over.
She will thank her lucky stars in a year or two

]]> By: cocoamommy http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17185 cocoamommy Thu, 03 Sep 2009 04:21:20 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17185 Last week I had to tune in to this show to see the hype was all about. I did see the episode where Khandi's mother walked out of the photo shoot. In my opinion 6 kids with 4 different mothers is enough of a red flag... How do you even begin to blend a situation like this? Should she not have standards in terms of a minimum # of children of a potential mate? Where is the future in this relationship? After being married I see the importance of forging strong relationships with your extended family especially when you have children. If you do not have this relationship with the extended family it can be very stressful for your relationship as well as with your children spending time with family members. It is amazing the comfort level people have with introducing their kids to "boyfriends" or "girlfriends". If you continue to show this behavior to your children what are you teaching them? Last week I had to tune in to this show to see the hype was all about. I did see the episode where Khandi’s mother walked out of the photo shoot. In my opinion 6 kids with 4 different mothers is enough of a red flag… How do you even begin to blend a situation like this? Should she not have standards in terms of a minimum # of children of a potential mate? Where is the future in this relationship? After being married I see the importance of forging strong relationships with your extended family especially when you have children. If you do not have this relationship with the extended family it can be very stressful for your relationship as well as with your children spending time with family members. It is amazing the comfort level people have with introducing their kids to “boyfriends” or “girlfriends”. If you continue to show this behavior to your children what are you teaching them?

]]> By: SingLikeSassy http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17183 SingLikeSassy Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:00:11 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17183 <i>it is very common these days for one or both partners to come into a relationship with children.</i> Not sure this is "common" as I can't think of one married couple I know who had children prior to marriage and I know a whole bunch of single folks who don't have children. As for Kandi, I'm not sure what connection she has with AJ but it is interesting that she would entertain someone who has so much baggage and made so many poor choices. Flame me if you like, but 6 children with 4 different women -- none of whom he has been married to -- is poor choices. I would have a hard time believing/trusting he could make good decisions for our family given his track record. But, maybe he's changed or learned or whatever and really makes Kandi happy. Good luck with that. it is very common these days for one or both partners to come into a relationship with children.

Not sure this is “common” as I can’t think of one married couple I know who had children prior to marriage and I know a whole bunch of single folks who don’t have children.

As for Kandi, I’m not sure what connection she has with AJ but it is interesting that she would entertain someone who has so much baggage and made so many poor choices. Flame me if you like, but 6 children with 4 different women — none of whom he has been married to — is poor choices. I would have a hard time believing/trusting he could make good decisions for our family given his track record.

But, maybe he’s changed or learned or whatever and really makes Kandi happy. Good luck with that.

]]> By: Funkidivagirl http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17173 Funkidivagirl Wed, 02 Sep 2009 18:16:47 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17173 Great post and everything that you said is so very true. Great post and everything that you said is so very true.

]]> By: Staycee2 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17170 Staycee2 Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:51:01 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17170 WOW WOW WOW!!!!!! AJ AWESOME post!!!!!!!!!! I married my husband bringing 1 daughter and him bringing 2 sons into the relationship. Now we have together 1 son together, bringing our kid total to 4 kids My husbands ex-wife passed 2 months ago and thank god we never EVER had drama. When two come together they need to remember this title to this article! Never in a million years that I would think that I would be raising someone else's kids!!!!!! Yes, my stepsons came to visit, but it was always guaranteed they would always return home to their mother! I am humbled to say that I thank god that he put me with their dad because god knew their mother wouldn't be here to raise them and I was the one to assume her responsibilities. I love my stepsons unconditionally and thank their mother for a drama free 10 years since my hubby and I have been together! Good rest her soul and I will not let her down on raising her boys to the best of my abilites! But I will be teaching my 4 kids to be careful what they ask for, they just might get it! WOW WOW WOW!!!!!! AJ AWESOME post!!!!!!!!!!
I married my husband bringing 1 daughter and him bringing 2 sons into the relationship. Now we have together 1 son together, bringing our kid total to 4 kids

My husbands ex-wife passed 2 months ago and thank god we never EVER had drama. When two come together they need to remember this title to this article! Never in a million years that I would think that I would be raising someone else’s kids!!!!!! Yes, my stepsons came to visit, but it was always guaranteed they would always return home to their mother!

I am humbled to say that I thank god that he put me with their dad because god knew their mother wouldn’t be here to raise them and I was the one to assume her responsibilities.

I love my stepsons unconditionally and thank their mother for a drama free 10 years since my hubby and I have been together! Good rest her soul and I will not let her down on raising her boys to the best of my abilites! But I will be teaching my 4 kids to be careful what they ask for, they just might get it!

]]> By: Ms. Miko http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17166 Ms. Miko Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:46:06 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17166 Well I watch the show, and it Khandi amazes me, it seems to me she just wants to be married by any means neccessary. He has to many kids, to many baby momma's point blank. I feel where her mom is coming from. I agree that her daughter is to attached to him and he has only been around for 7months. And that's bull that they don't have any drama with 4 baby momma's lol I had to laugh at that.. When I started dating my husband my son was 3yrs and I didn't allow them to develop a real relationship for at least 2 yrs, and he started to call him daddy when he was about 7 or 8, and we still dated 5 1/2 yrs before we married. And drama me and my son's donor always had drama..(cause he's dead beat) and even if he wasn't we would just because we don't see eye to eye on alot of things. So with that said she is living in a false reality. Well I watch the show, and it Khandi amazes me, it seems to me she just wants to be married by any means neccessary. He has to many kids, to many baby momma’s point blank. I feel where her mom is coming from. I agree that her daughter is to attached to him and he has only been around for 7months. And that’s bull that they don’t have any drama with 4 baby momma’s lol I had to laugh at that..

When I started dating my husband my son was 3yrs and I didn’t allow them to develop a real relationship for at least 2 yrs, and he started to call him daddy when he was about 7 or 8, and we still dated 5 1/2 yrs before we married. And drama me and my son’s donor always had drama..(cause he’s dead beat) and even if he wasn’t we would just because we don’t see eye to eye on alot of things.

So with that said she is living in a false reality.

]]> By: Tiya' http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17163 Tiya' Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:23:24 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17163 Aja, Great post. This show is also one of my guilty pleasures. We have to marry with our eyes open, especially when children are involved. I think in one episode, Kandi's daughter was mentioning all the children and how things would change once her mom and A.J. got married. I have always agreed with Kandi's mom, as a parent our first job is to protect our children from danger and potential hurt, and all the things you mentioned in this post can lead to hurt. Harriet, I am not surprised to see they called it off. Kandi just needs to make sure she is truly ready for all that comes along with a marriage to this man. Aja,

Great post. This show is also one of my guilty pleasures. We have to marry with our eyes open, especially when children are involved. I think in one episode, Kandi’s daughter was mentioning all the children and how things would change once her mom and A.J. got married. I have always agreed with Kandi’s mom, as a parent our first job is to protect our children from danger and potential hurt, and all the things you mentioned in this post can lead to hurt. Harriet, I am not surprised to see they called it off. Kandi just needs to make sure she is truly ready for all that comes along with a marriage to this man.

]]> By: Monyette http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17162 Monyette Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:56:47 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17162 Good writing Aja, I agree, marrying someone with 4 baby mama's is conflict in the making. I have to deal with 1 baby mama, and luckily we have all grown up to be able to deal with each other respectfully, but to have to deal with 4, that's too much. You have to understand his relationship with each of them and deal with each differently. That's a lot for anyone to handle, so my hat's off to Kandi. God bless you sista! Good writing Aja,

I agree, marrying someone with 4 baby mama’s is conflict in the making. I have to deal with 1 baby mama, and luckily we have all grown up to be able to deal with each other respectfully, but to have to deal with 4, that’s too much. You have to understand his relationship with each of them and deal with each differently. That’s a lot for anyone to handle, so my hat’s off to Kandi. God bless you sista!

]]> By: Shayla http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/09/02/be-sure-to-marry-with-your-eyes-open-real-housewives-of-atlanta-style/comment-page-1#comment-17161 Shayla Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:28:22 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=5979#comment-17161 As always, great writing!! You couldn't have said it any better.. marry with your eyes open! That is so true, I definitely agree that there is going to be conflict with 1 baby mama, but 4?! I find it hard to believe that there is absolutely no drama at all, at least 2 of them are not easy going! I will stay tuned til your next article! As always, great writing!! You couldn’t have said it any better.. marry with your eyes open! That is so true, I definitely agree that there is going to be conflict with 1 baby mama, but 4?! I find it hard to believe that there is absolutely no drama at all, at least 2 of them are not easy going! I will stay tuned til your next article!

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