Comments on: Make It Last Forever

By: MissJay

MissJay — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:59:26 +0000

@Shendya Williams
And congratz and good luck to you! It’s only 2 days away!!!! Remember to breathe! And some advice for the wedding day my friend gave me, don’t blink! It’s true, it flies by so fast!

By: MissJay

MissJay — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:57:36 +0000

@Shendya Williams
Read all of the above! It’s all really great advice.

@everyone – Thanks for the congratz! It doesn’t feel too different but it does.

re: bank accounts – My husband and I (it’s still cool to type/say LOL)have seperate accounts and we also have a joint account. All 3 are connected to eachother so that we can transfer money if we need to.

@newlyweds – Congratulations!!!!!

@KJ – The clerk at Heaven and Earth told my husband that I’m always right, even when I’m not. And to always apologize and that takes the fight out of someone. Not only that after a while we (women) will have no problem apologizing to you (men). The pastor told him the same LOL.

Love all the advise I saw above! Definitely agree to stay in prayer. Honestly if you’re still looking and even if you’ve found the person you want to marry, stay in prayer! I can not stress that enough as that is exactly what I did. I prayed to help me chose the person God had for me, to help me in my decision to stay in the relationship, to help get through the madness of planning the wedding LOL, and to help us sustain it.

By: Shendya Williams

Shendya Williams — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:37:36 +0000

Hello guys,
My fiance and I are getting married on 10/16/09 and I would love to get some advice from some married couples. We are young we are both 25 years of age and we have a son that is 1 years old. I really want us to last forever and i want to raise our family together. Im sure like everyone else we want the all american dream. But if you all can give me a little bit of advice that would be great.

By: The Writing Reverend

The Writing Reverend — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:01:03 +0000

I truly believe that and if it weren’t true my wife and I would have been done a long time ago. We even been through divorce court for several months and separated for a year and if it weren’t for the love and reflection of Christ Jesus there would be no way that we would have been able to celebrate another anniversary this past summer. As a man it is my initial intention to withdraw my vulnerabilities from my wife, but through the Word of Jesus my wife has been an outlet to weigh my headaches on and not leading me to find those securities in someone else.

By: aprylh98

aprylh98 — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:40:06 +0000

As a young, African-American woman who has been married to my mate for 16 years (I’m 36, he’s 37 and we have (4) children together), the best advice I would give to those who have a desire to be married is that I encourage you to ask the Lord to FIRST prepare you for marriage. You must submit to God’s future plans for your life and purpose to please Him. Do not make decisions without knowing God’s will, at the expense of your own personal spiritual growth. My husband and I married young (20 & 21) and this day and time, each partner brings a lot of emotional baggage into the marriage relationship. As you prepare for marriage, always remember the anointing that was upon Jesus is within you (Luke 4:18,19. This anointing will destroy every yoke of bondage as God exposes emotional wounds and heals your brokenness. Trust me, I know this very well.

Knowing the reality of your completeness in Christ Jesus will enable you to enter into a healthy relationship, one in which both you and your partner will grow together spiritually and in every other area of life. Ask God to teach you about boundaries, what they are and how to establish them instead of walls of defense against your spouse. Love your spouse unconditionally, delight in one another, forgive one another readily and freely as God in Christ has forgiven us; comfort, encourage and do each other only good as long as there is life within each of you and most of all, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE…… Hope this blesses someone!!!!!

By: The Writing Reverend

The Writing Reverend — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 09:49:37 +0000

I agree with winning the war, because even though sometimes I know that I’m right I still win the war by just apologizing. It is very profound and in turn I get some apologies back unexpectedly. So pride often has to go out of the window for me and I just wish that I could bring myself to it a lot sooner sometimes. Please check out my novel as it deals with this very subject.
http://www.amazon.com/How-Did-I-Get-Here/dp/0982556403

By: Robert M

Robert M — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:57:31 +0000

The object is not to win every battle but to win the war.
Works for raising children too.

By: The Writing Reverend

The Writing Reverend — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 18:46:45 +0000

I don’t have a problem with the separate account, because I do believe that if you have the communication thing down and the extra income to divide your income into separate accounts I am all for it. As long as the bills are getting paid the way they need to be I don’t see a problem with it. As someone who has worked with a lot of young couples that are literally pinching pennies I believe that a joint account is necessary to have it worked out to the penny so there is communication, which is one of the leading factors for divorce in low-income families. After divorce, then comes thew added statistics of living below the federal poverty level and angry children walking our streets.

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 18:33:48 +0000

The Writing Reverend said:
Something we do is date, date, date! I am always courting my wife and include her with any decision that is made in our household. And yes fellas that does include the bank account down to the last penny. Before spending our money we tell the money where it is going first, then we enjoy it together. So, if we are in a bind, we have already expected it coming and the stress levels are way down. We even started our own book club together so that we can have some good discussions when we see each other back at home and discuss our different perspectives of hot topics. It really does keep the friendship fresh.
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I agree with the date, date and date.(I have one tonight) I like my own seperate account though. I do agree with and love the book club together. Men and women are not going to see the same idea of the book written and it is so fun to talk and get a spouses persepctive.

By: The Writing Reverend

The Writing Reverend — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:26:55 +0000

Something we do is date, date, date! I am always courting my wife and include her with any decision that is made in our household. And yes fellas that does include the bank account down to the last penny. Before spending our money we tell the money where it is going first, then we enjoy it together. So, if we are in a bind, we have already expected it coming and the stress levels are way down. We even started our own book club together so that we can have some good discussions when we see each other back at home and discuss our different perspectives of hot topics. It really does keep the friendship fresh.