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by Lamar Tyler | on October 20th, 2009 | 5 comments

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I lost my sense of taste and smell this weekend. Imagine my misery. I ate and was not satisfied. I turned the humidifier on and could not smell the Vicks. It made me think about the little things I take for granted.

For example, my son always asks for a kiss, then proceeds to request a hug right after that. Sometimes it irks me, because he asks at the worst possible time…like when I have to go to the bathroom, or when I’m rushing out the door to get to work. Yet losing two of my five natural senses made me relish those hugs and kisses even more. Ten years from now, when he’s about 14 and trying to hurry out the door to school or the game, I’ll more than likely be the one to beg for a hug and kiss.

Sometimes, when my husband and I are lying in bed, our toes don’t even touch! He likes to cuddle, but I get hot too quickly. I like to have my own space. For some reason, this weekend, with no taste and smell, his touch was comforting to me. I snuggled up to him and allowed his heartbeat to lull me to sleep.

That sense of touch truly helped nurse me back to health. My main men showered me with it over the weekend, and although I’m not 100%, I attribute much of my healing to the two of them stimulating the senses that still worked.

BMWK family, what kinds of little things do you take for granted?

God bless!

~ Harriet

Harriet Hairston, a freelance writer, human resources administrator at an HBCU and creator of the motivational blog, “Can She SAY That?!?” has a unique style that brings readers into her life through her transparent demeanor. She lives in Louisiana with her husband and two sons. You can reach her at harriet_hairston@yahoo.com.

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Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://whyte23.blogspot.com/ Whyte23

Good Day Harriet,

The little things I take for granted?
Not to appreciate when someone does (an act, duty, role,) the little things for me whether it’s at home , work place , church , store etc…anytime or place in my everyday Life! To simply say; ” Thank You”!

Nice Article Mrs.Harriet ….Continue to share with us concerning what a healthy marriage and the example to what a Good Husband is to do when our soul-mate is feeling less than 100%. I know for in Whyte House if “My Queen” goes down….We All Are HIT. Yes, we as men can carry the load for a day or maybe even two days. After, that’s when Honey, Baby how much longer would be the next words coming out of my mouth.

Hope you’re feeling back to 110% sooner than later….Tell your husband to keep up the good work. He’s keeping us accountable!

Thank you for reading,
Whyte23
Harriet

Whyte23,

As always, your commentary is so refreshing! In case my husband doesn’t read this (but I’m sure he will), I’ll be sure to pass your message along to him.

I tried to keep it clean on here, but I think I actually had the flu (fever, chills, aches…the whole 9). My men took really good care of me, though. ) That’s what family is all about.
MrsT

Harriet I totally just sent this post to my husband because I had to show him I’m not the only one who needs my sleep space. I swear my husband is like an electric blanket and I just can’t be too close to him for too long when I’m trying to sleep. We cuddle for a little while then I’m off to my side of the bed where its 10 degrees cooler. I appreciate the reminder about not taking our loved ones for granted but it was the sleep space part that really made me smile today. Hope you’re feeling better.
Harriet

MrsT,

It’s always refreshing to find out that I’m not crazy. ROFL!!! My husband has learned to accept the fact that I need my space in bed, but it wasn’t always comforting to him.

Yet when I was feverish and had hot and cold chills, his embrace really helped a sister out. ) He tattled on me to my mama, though (grrr). For some reason he asserted that I’m not superwoman. I think it was when I thought I was feeling better, so I got up and fixed this elaborate meal. Needless to say, once everything was finished, I was SPENT. I could barely move after that!

AND…I got worse…couldn’t even taste the food I had fixed! / But I was hard headed and insisted on getting up. And he told my mama, who quickly rebuked me as well. LOL When he can’t do anything with this stubborn woman, he knows exactly who to call on: the Lord and my mama. ROFL!!
Anna

Cute post. Harriet we do think we are all well when we are not. I have found myself thinking I can cook dinner and do some laundry. It will wipe you out worse, thinking we are ok and not completly giving our body a chance to rest off what orginally made us sick. Of course we are women and we are not allowed to get sick. LOL. I don’t like to take things for granted, my job, my kids/hubby/family, my health. I don’t end a phone converstation without saying “I Love You”. Even at work there are many customers that will say it to me and I repeat it because we really mean it.
LOL @ him calling your mama. Usually when a woman gets sick we don’t want to be sick for more than a day. When some men get sick they will milk it for a week. They will still go to work but want more extra pampering when they get home. It’s ok. We know we love taking care of our sick husbands. At least I know I do.

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