Comments on: Singles POV: A Lady Never Facebooks on the First Date

By: Blove

Blove — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 20:58:50 +0000

Facebook did not kill the chase. The guy knew before leaving club the chick would only be a friend. It was a nice gesture on his part to provide his facebook ID to her.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 20:41:03 +0000

Great post…surely gave me a few things to think about.

By: spenseravery

spenseravery — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:43:54 +0000

@Ronnie, very good points. Depending just what the heck is on your FB page. I might not need to call you at ALL. Careful what you post ladies/gentleman.

By: Fabulous Femininity

Fabulous Femininity — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:45:17 +0000

As a single woman, I believe that being facebook friends with a new guy I’m dating is beneficial. And I just wrote a response to this BMWK entry on my own blog. Please check it out.

Why You Should Facebook the Guy You Just Met
http://fabulousfemininity.blogspot.com/2009/10/why-you-should-facebook-new-guy-you.html

By: Ronnie

Ronnie — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:38:09 +0000

Cherise – I did not have to deal with this when I was dating…Facebook adds another dynamic to the dating game. So instead taking your number and saying that they will call you the next day, the guy says Facebook Me.

If a guy said that to me, I would say sure (but in my mind I would have no intention of actually doing it.) I never gave my home phone number out, but if I was actually interested in a person I probably gave him my cell phone or email and then I would let him call me. That may be old fashioned…or cat and mouse…or whatever you want to call it…but that is how I operated.

Plus when you first meet a guy, you would not introduce that guy to all of your family/friends/kids and co-workers right away. So if you friend that person right away, they will have too much access to your personal life that perhaps you don’t want them to have yet (or ever.) If you use facebook as a networking tool and you will friend almost anybody..then perhaps it will ok to friend this man. But if you keep all sorts of personal information out their and you are selective about who you want seeing it, then perhaps you don’t want to be friending random dudes.

Pluuuuussssssssss – if you and this guy are not in a committed relationship..then you should make sure that you are a secure person and not a jealous person that will be on his page analyzing every comment and picture that he has with other women…You will drive yourself crazy.

So I would agree Cherise..there are many many reasons why Facebooking a potential date is not good. I think the old fashioned phone call or an acutal date would be best to start out with.

By: Cam

Cam — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:34:03 +0000

I just think facebook hastens and highlights negatives/insecurities because it allows for WAY more assumptions to be made than likely would have without the access.

By: TEE~LADY

TEE~LADY — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:11:49 +0000

I AGREE WITH TYRONE…

IF A MANS INTERESTED IN YOU, FACEBOOK SERVES AS A MEANS TO GET TO KNOW THAT PERSON BETTER BEFORE MEETING IN REAL~TIME. A PERSON SOCIAL CIRCLE, FAM & FRIENDS BETTER, THEIR IDEOLOGICAL VIEWS..PERTINENT INFORMATION CAN BE GATHERED FROM ONLINE~CHATTING.

PRIVACY OF COURSE IS ALWAYS TOP PRIORITY, HOWEVER THERE ARE CRITERIAS FACEBOOK HAVE PUT IN PLACE TO OFFSET THE ‘PRYING~EYE(s)

IF A PERSON IS ‘JUST NOT INTO YOU’…THEY WONT BE IN PERSON EITHER.
ONLINE~BEFRIENDING IN MY OPINION ARE GREAT WAYS TO LEARN ABOUT SOMEONE BEFORE MOVING FORWARD…

TEE~LADY IN HOUSTON

By: DAMARA

DAMARA — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:07:41 +0000

Please….. Facebook has nothing to do with who a person is internally.If he were going to call or show interest he would have regardless of Facebook.The guy Im dating and I talk on the phone ,Facebook, text and messaging because there is a genuine interest there.

By: Lamar

Lamar — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:01:20 +0000

Wow we’re getting pretty personal today eh? I can totally see how being totally aware of everything a person does throughout the day takes away from that newness and the mystery of when you meet someone new. One of the things that makes meeting someone new so special is getting to know them and if you see it all online then what?

On a different but similar note I actually have a friend who was telling me and Ronnie the other day that her techie bf only likes to talk via chat and im everyday which is driving her to her limits so this isn’t that far fetched.

Plus this wasn’t a thesis so lighten up.

By: Latasha

Latasha — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:22:31 +0000

Maybe the fact that they were no longer interested had nothing to do with Facebook and more of who you are as a person.