Where do you get your data from.
1. Sex in not a purely procreational function. Dolphins have known to have sex for purely physical purposes – fact
2. mammals such as chimps, orangutangs and other primates have been shown to practice masturbation, including females fashioning dildos for sexual pleasure- fact.

This is the problem with America. We have such a freedom of speech that we feel we can impose our views on others.

Lack of respect is NOT learned! Watch your children. They have to learn respect or at least this societies concept of it. Just like children have to be taught to believe in religion. your concepts are contrived and unrealistic.

Why should a good LIFELONG monogamous relationship be a walk in the park? Everything worth having is worth working for. Monogamy is realistic and very achievable.

Monogamy is not really set up as a choice in our country, it’s set up as the only way to live your life. And when people find themselves naturally attracted to others, they feel the only way to go about it is by cheating. I’m polyamorous. I love relationships with more than one woman. Once again, I’ll emphasis RELATIONSHIPS, not just sex, though sex plays a part in any intimate relationship. There are challenges, but they’re not overwhelming challenges; and the rewards are more than worth it.

Monogamy as you said is a choice, but it’s not a Gold Standard by any stretch of the imagination. There are other relationship styles than finding the one and spending the rest of you life happily ever after, which is not the case for most people anyway. When, if ever our culture starts to explore open relationships, learn to face and deal with sexual jealousy; relationships of all types: monogamous, polyamorous, and all points in between may truly become more fulfilling.

I’m polyamorous. There’s nothing wrong with monogamy as I said before, however, in our society it’s set up as a one size fits all paradigm. A paradigm many people fail at time and time again. It always fascinates me, that the failure rate for most marriages are 50 to 60 percent, and no one stops to question the validity of the institution itself. The idea of some one being yours and only yours goes hand in hand with ownership. That’s my husband, my wife, my penis, my vagina. The reality is that you can never truly posses anyone. Because someone find someone else attractive or fall in loves with another besides you, doesn’t make them a horrible person, and doesn’t mean they love you any less.

Like I said, monogamy works for some, but doesn’t work many others. Oddly enough of culture takes the happily ever after mantra that’s pounded in to most people via movies, songs, and television from the day they are born to heart, even if it doesn’t pan out in real life.

I am one of those who is a little intimated by the prospect of monogamy. It sounds really nice, but as others have mentioned, quite difficult to pull off. For me the question is not whether or not monogamy is realistic, but instead what are some strategies to cope with it? As a single person, I wish I had a better understanding of what married sex life is like past the first 1, 5, 10 years…, etc. All the jokes I hear on TV make it sound not so great. What do people do to keep it fresh? I know some ladies will find this controversial, but I think pornography has a place. Women, we need to be a bit more open-minded.