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Saving a Failing Marriage

4 November 2009 1 views 5 Comments

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Ran across an article that addressed several ways that you can try to save your failing marriage. It discusses communication as the key ingredient. The author realizes that communication or the lack thereof may actually be what’s gotten you into the situation of a failing marriage in the first place but successful communication is what will be necessary to turn things around.

Commitment to making the marriage work and just overall positivity are two of the other things pointed out as well. Here’s an excerpt:

Communication is the keystone that can balance the foundation of a marriage resting on shaky ground. Without proper communication, a marriage is doomed. You must not only learn to communicate, but also how to correctly communicate with your spouse.

Sometimes bad communication is also a factor that puts the relationship into jeopardy. This type of communication rips away the heart of many marriages. So, think before you speak, because these words do hurt worse than those proverbial sticks and stones.

You can check out the full article here…

BMWK, what else do you think can turn a negative situation around? If you’ve had a failing marriage and turned things around what did it take?

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Harriet said:

My marriage was failing at one point, and communication most certainly turned it around, along with:

Humility
Understanding
Forgiveness
Vision (to see where your marriage is GOING, not where it is now)

None of which would have made a difference at all had it not been for GOD.

# 4 November 2009 at 9:06 am

Christina said:

Amen to everything Harriet said!! For me, humility and selflessness were the key. I think lack of communication and selfishness are huge destructive forces in a marriage.

# 4 November 2009 at 10:47 am

Staycee2 said:

COMMUNICATION & RESPECT is something my marriage could NEVER live without!!!!

# 4 November 2009 at 1:01 pm

Anna said:

Without communication there is “NOTHING” I debate with my hubby and make love with my hubby. My opinion is mine and his is his. My kids sided with my hubby on who to pick for our new Mayor. I am not mad at their choice/pick but the person I picked won. If we don’t have a connection with our spouse or our kids we will fail. It is not about right, wrong or indifferent, it’s about COMMUNICATING. I don’t want my hubby or kids to side with me because I AM ME. I want them to have their own voice becasue they are “THEM. But for us to “communcate” is the key. I don’t have to agree with them to get along with them. I get along with them because we are mature enough to agree to disagre.

# 8 November 2009 at 9:41 pm

sissy10 said:

My marriage is so far gone. I don’t know what to do. Except pray. My husband says he wants to change but does everything against it. Stop going to church, meeting women, and so on. I keep praying and asking God to turn things around. I know he will. Everything about humility,forgiveness…God it home with me. I am so heartbroken still. My husband will not go to counseling, he continues to talk to females on the phone..new people. I call them and they say they didn’t know he was married. WHAT DO I DO. I’m in my on world here. My family thinks he’s the greatest thing on earth..and to a point he is. A great father, provider, caring. But to not know what and whom your husband is doing is heart wrenching. I have giving it to God, but have I really. It started with the cell phone, then he enrolled in college even more phone calls and texts, now he comes home every once in a while at 2 and 3 in the morning. Twice in two weeks! I know I need to wait on the Lord but in the mean time WHAT DO I DO! I’m getting closer to God..because if this isn’t the worst I don’t know what is. The The Enemy can not have my family. Any advice is welcome.

# 17 November 2009 at 4:02 pm