Comments on: Saving a Failing Marriage http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 15:57:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: sissy10 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-20190 sissy10 Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:02:07 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6772#comment-20190 My marriage is so far gone. I don't know what to do. Except pray. My husband says he wants to change but does everything against it. Stop going to church, meeting women, and so on. I keep praying and asking God to turn things around. I know he will. Everything about humility,forgiveness...God it home with me. I am so heartbroken still. My husband will not go to counseling, he continues to talk to females on the phone..new people. I call them and they say they didn't know he was married. WHAT DO I DO. I'm in my on world here. My family thinks he's the greatest thing on earth..and to a point he is. A great father, provider, caring. But to not know what and whom your husband is doing is heart wrenching. I have giving it to God, but have I really. It started with the cell phone, then he enrolled in college even more phone calls and texts, now he comes home every once in a while at 2 and 3 in the morning. Twice in two weeks! I know I need to wait on the Lord but in the mean time WHAT DO I DO! I'm getting closer to God..because if this isn't the worst I don't know what is. The The Enemy can not have my family. Any advice is welcome. My marriage is so far gone. I don’t know what to do. Except pray. My husband says he wants to change but does everything against it. Stop going to church, meeting women, and so on. I keep praying and asking God to turn things around. I know he will. Everything about humility,forgiveness…God it home with me. I am so heartbroken still. My husband will not go to counseling, he continues to talk to females on the phone..new people. I call them and they say they didn’t know he was married. WHAT DO I DO. I’m in my on world here. My family thinks he’s the greatest thing on earth..and to a point he is. A great father, provider, caring. But to not know what and whom your husband is doing is heart wrenching. I have giving it to God, but have I really. It started with the cell phone, then he enrolled in college even more phone calls and texts, now he comes home every once in a while at 2 and 3 in the morning. Twice in two weeks! I know I need to wait on the Lord but in the mean time WHAT DO I DO! I’m getting closer to God..because if this isn’t the worst I don’t know what is. The The Enemy can not have my family. Any advice is welcome.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-19921 Anna Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:41:13 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6772#comment-19921 Without communication there is "NOTHING" I debate with my hubby and make love with my hubby. My opinion is mine and his is his. My kids sided with my hubby on who to pick for our new Mayor. I am not mad at their choice/pick but the person I picked won. If we don't have a connection with our spouse or our kids we will fail. It is not about right, wrong or indifferent, it's about COMMUNICATING. I don't want my hubby or kids to side with me because I AM ME. I want them to have their own voice becasue they are "THEM. But for us to "communcate" is the key. I don't have to agree with them to get along with them. I get along with them because we are mature enough to agree to disagre. Without communication there is “NOTHING” I debate with my hubby and make love with my hubby. My opinion is mine and his is his. My kids sided with my hubby on who to pick for our new Mayor. I am not mad at their choice/pick but the person I picked won. If we don’t have a connection with our spouse or our kids we will fail. It is not about right, wrong or indifferent, it’s about COMMUNICATING. I don’t want my hubby or kids to side with me because I AM ME. I want them to have their own voice becasue they are “THEM. But for us to “communcate” is the key. I don’t have to agree with them to get along with them. I get along with them because we are mature enough to agree to disagre.

]]> By: Staycee2 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-19697 Staycee2 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:01:17 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6772#comment-19697 COMMUNICATION & RESPECT is something my marriage could NEVER live without!!!! COMMUNICATION & RESPECT is something my marriage could NEVER live without!!!!

]]> By: Christina http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-19691 Christina Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:47:41 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6772#comment-19691 Amen to everything Harriet said!! For me, humility and selflessness were the key. I think lack of communication and selfishness are huge destructive forces in a marriage. Amen to everything Harriet said!! For me, humility and selflessness were the key. I think lack of communication and selfishness are huge destructive forces in a marriage.

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/04/saving-a-failing-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-19687 Harriet Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:06:07 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6772#comment-19687 My marriage was failing at one point, and communication most certainly turned it around, along with: Humility Understanding Forgiveness Vision (to see where your marriage is GOING, not where it is now) None of which would have made a difference at all had it not been for GOD. My marriage was failing at one point, and communication most certainly turned it around, along with:

Humility
Understanding
Forgiveness
Vision (to see where your marriage is GOING, not where it is now)

None of which would have made a difference at all had it not been for GOD.

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