Comments on: Usher’s New Single, “Papers,” Rubs Me The Wrong Way http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 00:17:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mariesa http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-20032 Mariesa Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:25:06 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-20032 I think that the song is just not very good, like all of his songs. I was squirming through the whole thing. This is a very sensitive and private subject and they both need to do a better job at keeping it that way. I do also feel they aren't giving it a chance to work. I mean in "real life" dealing with having kids back to back, having a near-death experience, and in-law issues can cause a lot of friction between a couple. And then add the celebrity factor on to it... So difficult... But not a reason to get divorced! He fought so hard, what happened? They need to try and work it out. People are running from their marriages too quick these days. We live in a world of Instant gratification, and when things get bad we just throw em out and get another. It's sad... I think that the song is just not very good, like all of his songs. I was squirming through the whole thing. This is a very sensitive and private subject and they both need to do a better job at keeping it that way. I do also feel they aren’t giving it a chance to work. I mean in “real life” dealing with having kids back to back, having a near-death experience, and in-law issues can cause a lot of friction between a couple. And then add the celebrity factor on to it… So difficult… But not a reason to get divorced! He fought so hard, what happened? They need to try and work it out. People are running from their marriages too quick these days. We live in a world of Instant gratification, and when things get bad we just throw em out and get another. It’s sad…

]]> By: Dominique http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-20028 Dominique Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:44:26 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-20028 I honestly love the song because its him expressing how he feel. I'm estatic that he made the song. i love this song so much! I honestly love the song because its him expressing how he feel. I’m estatic that he made the song. i love this song so much!

]]> By: ToBeHonest http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-20007 ToBeHonest Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:08:48 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-20007 Of course you hate the song, because it speaks the truth about who's mostly the bad apple in the marriage and files the most divorces (women). They do it for money, and it is wrong (even if it's her who messes up the marriage by cheating or saying she's bored). That's why no sane well-being man will get married in this day and age (no one wants to be less than #1 on a woman's "list"). These women don't want to do anything (work/cook/work out problems) but will divorce or put someone on child-support in a heartbeat. Pathetic. I'm appauled. Of course you hate the song, because it speaks the truth about who’s mostly the bad apple in the marriage and files the most divorces (women). They do it for money, and it is wrong (even if it’s her who messes up the marriage by cheating or saying she’s bored). That’s why no sane well-being man will get married in this day and age (no one wants to be less than #1 on a woman’s “list”). These women don’t want to do anything (work/cook/work out problems) but will divorce or put someone on child-support in a heartbeat. Pathetic. I’m appauled.

]]> By: Link Love Roundup: What We’re Reading… | Clutch Magazine: The Digital Magazine for the Young, Contemporary Woman of Color http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-20005 Link Love Roundup: What We’re Reading… | Clutch Magazine: The Digital Magazine for the Young, Contemporary Woman of Color Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:03:01 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-20005 [...] and Married with Kids Usher’s New Single, “Papers,” Rubs Me The Wrong Way: HA! – (GO) Is Monogamy Realistic?: We hope so! [...] [...] and Married with Kids Usher’s New Single, “Papers,” Rubs Me The Wrong Way: HA! – (GO) Is Monogamy Realistic?: We hope so! [...]

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19873 Anna Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:27:04 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19873 Usher should be by himself and stay by himself. I get so tired of people wanting him with Chili(no disrespect to your comment Cheryl). Love is personal and private and should only be entertaining when it's positive. or is a way to heal or help. Where is the heal or help in is short lived marriage? Hubby and I debated in our own home on cell phones about this song. He (hubby) does think this is a "anthem" for men. I said "what anthem"" (we both believe that divorce is not a option). Hubby still thinks that the song is ok. I told him that it is not and that Usher is a punk azz man who dissed his wife. Hubby thinks that the song was not about his wife. What the heck is my hubby takling about? (did we not listen to the same song). My hubby has no kids and I am his only/first wife.(that is why I understand his thinking). But his thinking is wrong. A man should not diss his wife, the mother of his children no matter how much you hate or dislike them. Of course I put my foot in my mouth when I said to hubby " you don't have kids". He has been in my kids lives for over a decade and they to him our his kids, but he gets/got the fun of being the peace keeper. He bakes something for the kids after/while I get the chosen task of disapline. Of course I would not have it any other way, but that is not the point. Usher is wrong. You don't talk ill of your ex and make a song about it or put it on twittter. I like Tameka and I wish her the best. I lost respect more for Usher than his ex wife. Usher should be by himself and stay by himself. I get so tired of people wanting him with Chili(no disrespect to your comment Cheryl). Love is personal and private and should only be entertaining when it’s positive. or is a way to heal or help. Where is the heal or help in is short lived marriage? Hubby and I debated in our own home on cell phones about this song. He (hubby) does think this is a “anthem” for men. I said “what anthem”" (we both believe that divorce is not a option). Hubby still thinks that the song is ok. I told him that it is not and that Usher is a punk azz man who dissed his wife. Hubby thinks that the song was not about his wife. What the heck is my hubby takling about? (did we not listen to the same song).

My hubby has no kids and I am his only/first wife.(that is why I understand his thinking). But his thinking is wrong. A man should not diss his wife, the mother of his children no matter how much you hate or dislike them. Of course I put my foot in my mouth when I said to hubby ” you don’t have kids”. He has been in my kids lives for over a decade and they to him our his kids, but he gets/got the fun of being the peace keeper. He bakes something for the kids after/while I get the chosen task of disapline. Of course I would not have it any other way, but that is not the point. Usher is wrong. You don’t talk ill of your ex and make a song about it or put it on twittter. I like Tameka and I wish her the best. I lost respect more for Usher than his ex wife.

]]> By: Cheryl Lynn Pope http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19793 Cheryl Lynn Pope Sat, 07 Nov 2009 02:19:07 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19793 Love is personal and private but it can also be entertaining. Who knows, maybe this is Usher's threapy. Maybe he needed to get it out to keep from crying. We never know why a person does what he does out of love. Let's just pray that everything works out. BTW , I never wanted him with her, though. I thought Usher and Chili should have stayed together. I'm just saying :) Love is personal and private but it can also be entertaining. Who knows, maybe this is Usher’s threapy. Maybe he needed to get it out to keep from crying. We never know why a person does what he does out of love. Let’s just pray that everything works out.
BTW , I never wanted him with her, though. I thought Usher and Chili should have stayed together. I’m just saying :)

]]> By: Ronnie http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19776 Ronnie Fri, 06 Nov 2009 20:23:24 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19776 This song rubs me the wrong way too...I think because to me the ink is not dry yet. (but I really don't know what the status of their marriage is so I can't judge.) Also, he fought so hard to show the world that he was in love with Tameka. Then they got married and had kids and now this!! Are they really giving their marriage a chance...are they fighting for their marriage? This song rubs me the wrong way too…I think because to me the ink is not dry yet. (but I really don’t know what the status of their marriage is so I can’t judge.)

Also, he fought so hard to show the world that he was in love with Tameka. Then they got married and had kids and now this!! Are they really giving their marriage a chance…are they fighting for their marriage?

]]> By: Tara http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19771 Tara Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:06:21 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19771 Okay, so I've finally figured out why I hate the song (besides the fact that I just think musically it's boring). Yes, artists have always used music to express themselves. Political (Pete...LOL) Music - I have no problem with this point. In case, the first song you mentioned, Lauryn Hill's Ex Factor was on repeat when breaking up with my boyfriend. I understand how songs that might be full of pain can also be used for the entertainment value or to help someone cope. But what I don't like is this song coupled with all the drama surrounding the dissolution of their marriage. I don't really fault Usher, because he's been in the game a long time and really, being a singer in the public light is all he's known. But when you have his wife blogging and tweeting about their relationship, rumors flying everywhere, he delays signing the divorce papers just as this single comes out - it just strikes me as incredibly tacky. Does my point of view make sense? It's not necessarily the song itself, which I think is somewhat mild... Okay, so I’ve finally figured out why I hate the song (besides the fact that I just think musically it’s boring).

Yes, artists have always used music to express themselves. Political (Pete…LOL) Music – I have no problem with this point. In case, the first song you mentioned, Lauryn Hill’s Ex Factor was on repeat when breaking up with my boyfriend. I understand how songs that might be full of pain can also be used for the entertainment value or to help someone cope.

But what I don’t like is this song coupled with all the drama surrounding the dissolution of their marriage.

I don’t really fault Usher, because he’s been in the game a long time and really, being a singer in the public light is all he’s known. But when you have his wife blogging and tweeting about their relationship, rumors flying everywhere, he delays signing the divorce papers just as this single comes out – it just strikes me as incredibly tacky.

Does my point of view make sense? It’s not necessarily the song itself, which I think is somewhat mild…

]]> By: DonielleMichele http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19769 DonielleMichele Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:49:03 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19769 Political Music...... Amen Amen and Amen! That is exactly right! I can definitely think of albums (yes, whole albums) that are geared towards cheating, lust, love, abuse and even getting knocked up! All throughout history songs have been the gateway for expressing your feelings. If you give me a song, I will point out the message behind it. Usher has done nothing wrong here, it is his ART and we line up to buy it. Anybody from Shakespeare to Jay Z has written a poem or song that reflects life. I wonder if the song would be more "acceptable" if he wasn't going through a divorce right now and was just singing about it.....hmmmmmm. Divorce is a very touchy subject but it is REAL just like marriage. Here's a thought....... Think of one of the most trying times in your life and then think of a song that matches those feelings. There are so many songs that can make a person break down and cry and pull them together at the same time. There is power and healing in music, there's no denying that. Political Music…… Amen Amen and Amen! That is exactly right! I can definitely think of albums (yes, whole albums) that are geared towards cheating, lust, love, abuse and even getting knocked up! All throughout history songs have been the gateway for expressing your feelings. If you give me a song, I will point out the message behind it. Usher has done nothing wrong here, it is his ART and we line up to buy it. Anybody from Shakespeare to Jay Z has written a poem or song that reflects life. I wonder if the song would be more “acceptable” if he wasn’t going through a divorce right now and was just singing about it…..hmmmmmm. Divorce is a very touchy subject but it is REAL just like marriage. Here’s a thought……. Think of one of the most trying times in your life and then think of a song that matches those feelings. There are so many songs that can make a person break down and cry and pull them together at the same time. There is power and healing in music, there’s no denying that.

]]> By: Political Music http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/11/05/usher%e2%80%99s-new-single-%e2%80%9cpapers%e2%80%9d-rubs-me-the-wrong-way/comment-page-1#comment-19761 Political Music Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:10:56 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=6782#comment-19761 Lovely, I would not be surprised! The "reconciling" album 2010! lol Lovely,

I would not be surprised! The “reconciling” album 2010! lol

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