Keep The Honey in the Moon
There are times when life’s routine can take its toll on a marital relationship. Things can become humdrum and “business as usual.” It’s during those times when the importance of keeping the “honey” in the “moon” of your marriage alive. Now, I don’t know the origin of the word “honeymoon,” but I did a little research on some unconventional uses of honey. Here are a few ways we can apply these uses to our marriages:
- Honey has a calming power: how many of us need to just calm down and not take ourselves so seriously?
- Honey can be used as a topical ointment over wounds: the honey in the moon will ease the sting of words spoken too hastily.
- Honey helps the body retain more calcium: calcium keeps our bone structure strong, just as retaining calcium within the structure and foundation of love in our marriages is important.
- Honey replenishes the body and gives it back what it releases during extreme events: after a particularly tough season or trial, honey has the ability to replenish what was drained.
- Honey rids the body of toxins: things like anger, unforgiveness, manipulation can poison a marriage. Honey has a way of ridding a marriage of those types of things.
- Honey improves blood flow: in the bedroom, blood flow is absolutely imperative; in daily life, it keeps us alive and full of energy.
When marriage gets stressful, here are some ways I add the honey back to the moon of my own marriage:
- Picnic in the living room: after the children are in bed, we camp out in the living room over candlelight and a great meal.
- Let’s do lunch: we try to take the time out to eat lunch together to calm one another down during particularly rough seasons.
- Sex Info 101: this is a website we discovered that outlines 101 different positions we can use. Periodically, I print out a picture (they’re faceless cartoons…nothing over the top) of what I’d like to try and put it in a place where I know my husband (but not my children) will find it.
- Never underestimate the power of sticky pads. We have both taken sticky notes and written what we love, appreciate and find sexy about one another and post them on our mirrors or in our closets just to get one another’s attention.
- SCRABBLE! Nothing more intimate than using a game of Scrabble (or whatever you like…Uno, Connect 4, etc.) to determine who will be the love slave for the weekend.
Those are a few of many strategies we use to ensure we remain hot for one another and that we stick together at all times. What about you, BMWK? How do you keep the honey in the moon of your marriage? What are some strategies you employ to remain–for lack of better terms–hot and sticky for one another?
God bless!
~ Harriet
Harriet Hairston, a freelance writer, human resources administrator at an HBCU and creator of the motivational blog, “Can She SAY That?!?” has a unique style that brings readers into her life through her transparent demeanor. She lives in Louisiana with her husband and two sons. You can reach her at harriet_hairston@yahoo.com.
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