I found an interesting article over on a site called twoofus.org. We all know about the stress of working then coming home to kids that are bouncing off the walls. Sometimes if you run through this tiring routine enough it gets easy to forget about making time for your spouse. This article gives us some tips on how to make sure you find that time to keep your marriage and family going strong. Here are 5 tips on how you can find time for your spouse.
- Plan Regular Date Nights
- Explore the Little Things
- Talk
- Do It Together
- Make Time for Sex
Plan Regular Date Nights:
Hire a sitter and grab dinner and a movie every week or month. Short on time? Meet each other for lunch. Short on funds? Watch a movie at home after the kids fall asleep. It’s not what you do that matters. The important thing is that you spend time together having fun. Date nights are a time to connect and talk like adults, ignore the “business” of life (bills, parenting issues, in-laws), and just spend time together! Even when you’re married, it’s important to continue to get to know each other and talk about everything from the weather to your feelings, hopes, and plans for the future. We all grow and change over time and “dating” is a great way to keep in touch.
Explore the Little Things:
Take advantage of smaller encounters and moments to let your spouse know how much you love them. When you see each other at the end of the day, stop what you’re doing, greet each other, and talk briefly. Offer compliments, and do them a favor (or two!) without being asked. Don’t take your spouse for granted. Show them often that you care.
For explanations on the rest you can click here for the full article.
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These tips are on the money. I’ve been married for 25 years and have been through it all, ups and downs. But this is an up time for us now. I have learned that you must keep your partner engaged by talking, doing things together, and having fun dates. You have to spend as much time nuturing the relationship as you do nurturing careers and kids.
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Sweepy Jean December 11, 2009 at 6:55 pm
These tips are on the money. I’ve been married for 25 years and have been through it all, ups and downs. But this is an up time for us now. I have learned that you must keep your partner engaged by talking, doing things together, and having fun dates. You have to spend as much time nuturing the relationship as you do nurturing careers and kids.
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So true. I think that most ppl like the idea of being married, but don’t realize the effort it takes to stay married. We all have our “ups and downs” and I have been in my “up time(as you put it) for many yrs. I know the longer I am married the better it gets. I know that hubby does not like oxtails or pigs feet(more for me) I also know that I am not going to leave him hanging for a meal but make a alternative one or he will make his own. Sometimes it is the little things that can tick someone off the most. Never sweat the small stuff. Save your enegry for something more meaningful, like where are we going for “Date Night”. LOL.