Comments on: Transparency: Don’t Get It Twisted!? http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:09:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21315 Anna Sun, 20 Dec 2009 17:20:37 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21315 He called me on my cell phone. "Me, Me Me. Marsha, Marsha, Marsha. LOL. He called me on my cell phone. “Me, Me Me. Marsha, Marsha, Marsha. LOL.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21314 Anna Sun, 20 Dec 2009 17:12:24 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21314 Patrick Hairston December 19, 2009 at 4:36 pm @Anna I am very glad that my wife is transparent about our issues and intense fellowship, especially when it is helping others get through their issues as well. At first, I was like, “NO, that is none of their business,” but I read a comment after she had posted an article that was REAL TRANSPARENT and saw how it helped and freed someone else up to be free and open up. So if what we go through in our marriage helps others open, be free, and know they are not alone, then I am for it. I support my “Beautiful” 100% and I love the way she flows. Just for the record: PLEASE DON’T GET IT TWISTED! I am in love with my beautiful, intelligent, gifted, blessed, chocolate chip wife, and I will hunt and find anybody who disrespects her……….LOL ? ~~~~~~~~~~~ Thank You Patrick for your response. We love your wife , and that she is honest and real. I have poured out my feelings on this site long ago. I have learned that marriage does not have to be complicated. My hubby just called me on me cell phone and we are in the same house. Little things do mean the most, and little debates can turn big. We have to find a place to vent. I will say it again, my hubby is a great "Charlie Brown", but his driving skills suck. LOL.. Patrick Hairston December 19, 2009 at 4:36 pm
@Anna
I am very glad that my wife is transparent about our issues and intense fellowship, especially when it is helping others get through their issues as well. At first, I was like, “NO, that is none of their business,” but I read a comment after she had posted an article that was REAL TRANSPARENT and saw how it helped and freed someone else up to be free and open up. So if what we go through in our marriage helps others open, be free, and know they are not alone, then I am for it. I support my “Beautiful” 100% and I love the way she flows.

Just for the record: PLEASE DON’T GET IT TWISTED! I am in love with my beautiful, intelligent, gifted, blessed, chocolate chip wife, and I will hunt and find anybody who disrespects her……….LOL ?

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Thank You Patrick for your response. We love your wife , and that she is honest and real. I have poured out my feelings on this site long ago. I have learned that marriage does not have to be complicated. My hubby just called me on me cell phone and we are in the same house. Little things do mean the most, and little debates can turn big. We have to find a place to vent. I will say it again, my hubby is a great “Charlie Brown”, but his driving skills suck. LOL..

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21312 Harriet Sun, 20 Dec 2009 13:18:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21312 Edward, Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I don't know what you meant by this statement: "Perhaps you were mistaken because genuineness is a fleeting quality." Could you explain that further? Thanks! .-= Harriet´s last blog ..<a href="http://harriet-canshesaythat.blogspot.com/2009/12/workingdreamingworkingdreaming.html" rel="nofollow">Working...Dreaming...Working...Dreaming</a> =-. Edward,

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.

I don’t know what you meant by this statement:

“Perhaps you were mistaken because genuineness is a fleeting quality.”

Could you explain that further? Thanks!
.-= Harriet´s last blog ..Working…Dreaming…Working…Dreaming =-.

]]> By: Edward http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21308 Edward Sun, 20 Dec 2009 03:44:25 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21308 Harriet as I have said in other posts, your transparency is refreshing and helpful to many. I think what you have done in "Dont Get It Twisted" is to underline the difference between genuine transparency a.k.a. honesty and motive driven transparency a.k.a. crying out. I never really thought about it, but often people claim transparency while they really are asking for help. Perhaps you were mistaken because genuineness is a fleeting quality. But keep writing honestly - God Bless You and Your Marriage. Harriet as I have said in other posts, your transparency is refreshing and helpful to many. I think what you have done in “Dont Get It Twisted” is to underline the difference between genuine transparency a.k.a. honesty and motive driven transparency a.k.a. crying out. I never really thought about it, but often people claim transparency while they really are asking for help. Perhaps you were mistaken because genuineness is a fleeting quality. But keep writing honestly – God Bless You and Your Marriage.

]]> By: Patrick Hairston http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21275 Patrick Hairston Sat, 19 Dec 2009 21:36:46 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21275 @Anna I am very glad that my wife is transparent about our issues and intense fellowship, especially when it is helping others get through their issues as well. At first, I was like, "NO, that is none of their business," but I read a comment after she had posted an article that was REAL TRANSPARENT and saw how it helped and freed someone else up to be free and open up. So if what we go through in our marriage helps others open, be free, and know they are not alone, then I am for it. I support my "Beautiful" 100% and I love the way she flows. Just for the record: PLEASE DON'T GET IT TWISTED! I am in love with my beautiful, intelligent, gifted, blessed, chocolate chip wife, and I will hunt and find anybody who disrespects her..........LOL ? @Anna
I am very glad that my wife is transparent about our issues and intense fellowship, especially when it is helping others get through their issues as well. At first, I was like, “NO, that is none of their business,” but I read a comment after she had posted an article that was REAL TRANSPARENT and saw how it helped and freed someone else up to be free and open up. So if what we go through in our marriage helps others open, be free, and know they are not alone, then I am for it. I support my “Beautiful” 100% and I love the way she flows.

Just for the record: PLEASE DON’T GET IT TWISTED! I am in love with my beautiful, intelligent, gifted, blessed, chocolate chip wife, and I will hunt and find anybody who disrespects her……….LOL ?

]]> By: Josey http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21267 Josey Sat, 19 Dec 2009 14:11:27 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21267 Hey Hariett! I appreciate your blog. I stumbled upon it this morning and it was inspiring to read... I sent you a private email as well. Thank you so much, Lady J Hey Hariett! I appreciate your blog. I stumbled upon it this morning and it was inspiring to read…

I sent you a private email as well.

Thank you so much,

Lady J

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21265 Anna Sat, 19 Dec 2009 04:26:17 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21265 You made me laugh out loud with " For the record, *special* could have a whole lot of different connotations. ROFL! I can't stop laughing. You know I love you and your posts/comments. I still can't stop laughing while typing this. My abs got a work out and my calorie weight loss just got erassed. I just hope that the "freeze frame" smile I have right now is not a permanent situation. My stomach hurts from laughing. Please pray for me, my hubby is going to think I am laughing at him when we make love tonigh and take it the wrong way. They say "stupid is as stupid does", I say funny is as funny does. I have to take a breath before I go to bed. Hubby might just want a divorce, if I burst out laughing thinking about your comment and he may think his bedroom performance is not up to par. LOL. I am still laughing, it took me 10 minutes to type this and I can type 70 words a minute. I really had to step away from my computer to keep laughing. You made me laugh out loud with ” For the record, *special* could have a whole lot of different connotations. ROFL!
I can’t stop laughing. You know I love you and your posts/comments. I still can’t stop laughing while typing this. My abs got a work out and my calorie weight loss just got erassed. I just hope that the “freeze frame” smile I have right now is not a permanent situation. My stomach hurts from laughing. Please pray for me, my hubby is going to think I am laughing at him when we make love tonigh and take it the wrong way. They say “stupid is as stupid does”, I say funny is as funny does. I have to take a breath before I go to bed. Hubby might just want a divorce, if I burst out laughing thinking about your comment and he may think his bedroom performance is not up to par. LOL. I am still laughing, it took me 10 minutes to type this and I can type 70 words a minute. I really had to step away from my computer to keep laughing.

]]> By: Harriet http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21262 Harriet Sat, 19 Dec 2009 03:17:22 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21262 @ Anna, Patrick gives me free reign to talk about anything that goes on outside our bedroom. For the articles that even HINT at anything in that subject matter, I submit them to him for approval. And yes, he thinks I'm "special." *For the record, *special* could have a whole lot of different connotations. ROFL! .-= Harriet´s last blog ..<a href="http://harriet-canshesaythat.blogspot.com/2009/12/workingdreamingworkingdreaming.html" rel="nofollow">Working...Dreaming...Working...Dreaming</a> =-. @ Anna,

Patrick gives me free reign to talk about anything that goes on outside our bedroom. For the articles that even HINT at anything in that subject matter, I submit them to him for approval.

And yes, he thinks I’m “special.” *For the record, *special* could have a whole lot of different connotations. ROFL!
.-= Harriet´s last blog ..Working…Dreaming…Working…Dreaming =-.

]]> By: Anna http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21257 Anna Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:45:44 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21257 Keep writing Harriet. There is always going to be someone willing to fill "the shoes of another" I find it both funny and flattering. Most of us know when you write you are just being raw and real about your own marriage, and we appreciate that. For us who read your posts faithfully, we know you love your "perfectly imperfect husband"(I have one of those also) I have a question. What does he think about you sharing so much of your marriage. I hope he realizes how special you are to us for sharing so much. Keep writing Harriet. There is always going to be someone willing to fill “the shoes of another” I find it both funny and flattering. Most of us know when you write you are just being raw and real about your own marriage, and we appreciate that. For us who read your posts faithfully, we know you love your “perfectly imperfect husband”(I have one of those also) I have a question. What does he think about you sharing so much of your marriage. I hope he realizes how special you are to us for sharing so much.

]]> By: Jonesi http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/12/18/transparency-dont-get-it-twisted%e2%80%8f/comment-page-1#comment-21256 Jonesi Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:44:06 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=7266#comment-21256 *standing ovation* As always, keep doing whatcha Harriet! :-) *standing ovation* As always, keep doing whatcha Harriet! :-)

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