Three M’s To Stay Away From in Your Marriage

Relationships

by Lamar Tyler | on February 27th, 2010 | 7 comments

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Ran across a good article talking about three M’s you want to keep out of your marriage. The three M’s are Manipulative, Malicious, and yo Mamma! Just kidding the article said Mother but it means something else. Check out this excerpt:

Manipulative

“We see it in those who manipulate their spouse into doing what they want when they want it, using sex or whatever other means at their disposal to get their own way.”

Malicious

“The malicious person who tells lies, who makes nasty or sarcastic comments about their spouse, who belittles them in front of others, is not being loving.”

Mother

“What I mean is don’t be so much a mother to your children that you forget to be first and foremost a wife. Yes you love your children and want to do your best for them, but you should not become so focused on mothering duties that you neglect your husband. Your spouse should be your prime focus. Children will grow up and leave home. Your spouse is the one you have committed to for life.”

The entire article isn’t very long but it’s packed with good info. Check it out by clicking here.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://www.mochadad.com Mocha Dad

Also, women should not mother their husbands. Treat them as men and not as children.
.-= Mocha Dad´s last blog ..25 Romantic Ideas for Men from Women =-.
https://www.createspace.com/3430012 Harriet

Dang! I guess I can’t use any of my secret weapons anymore. I’ve been exposed! LOL Just kidding!

One thing that has always burned me up is when I see spouses belittling each other in public. To me, that’s the height of disrespect and childishness. And I agree, Mocha. Women should not mother their husbands, and men should not compare their wives to their mothers (unless they want WWIII to ensue).

Great article! Thanks for sharing!
Anna

We as women should not “mother a husband” As a mother and a wife if my husband wanted me to be his mother, I would have to send him back home to his mom. LOL.
Making Love can be a chore or a reward. LOL Marriage is a compromise.

“The malicious person who tells lies, who makes nasty or sarcastic comments about their spouse, who belittles them in front of others, is not being loving
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A spouse who does that in public or private is not your friend…
Jonesi

I don’t have children, but the one thing that truly scares about when that day comes is balancing between them and my husband. It really makes me cringe to hear “Your spouse comes first”, but I am always receptive to credible wisdom and advice…I just wonder what “Your spouse comes first” looks like and translates too behaviorial wise.
http://www.blackandmarriedwithkids.com Lamar

@Jonesi- this was something Rev. Run touched on in his book. You should check it out, he had a great explanation. We touched on it during our interview a while back but the book info is worth the price:

http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2009/08/09/bmwk-interview-with-the-author-rev-run/
Jonesi

Thanks Lamar. I will have to check that out
http://bloggingeverafter.wordpress.com {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After

*Noted.

Thanks for sharing this!
.-= {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After´s last blog ..Relaxation, Rejuvenation…Romance? =-.