Don’t Trip…He Ain’t Through With Me Yet
by Harriet Hairston
Sometimes I think women can be so performance driven within their marriages that they forget how to be human. I would LOVE to say that I’m perfect in all my conversations and dealings with other people, but based on my past behavior, that’s just not the case at all. I’ve acted like a straight up FOOL on many occasions…especially in the first 18 months of my marriage. So when people contact me to ask my advice about certain aspects of marriage, I have to be honest with them…I don’t have it all together.
What is it about human nature that only wants to show someone their “delivered” side–you know–the side that has it all together, and has never made any mistakes? Well, I’m here to tell you that if you ask me about something, I’m going to give you what I believe the right answer is…but if I acted a fool in the process of getting to that answer, I’m going to tell the truth about it. Usually I find that accomplishes the following things:
- It takes me off a pedestal I never wanted to be on in the first place and puts me eye to eye with the person asking the questions.
- It shows others that it takes a PROCESS to “arrive.” I didn’t just wake up with effortless ephiphanies. I learned the hard way on many occasions.
- It truly glorifies God in my life, because I give Him credit for what I’ve learned. Had it not been for him, NOBODY would be coming to me asking me anything! LOL
- It shows others that it’s OK to be human. Now, I’m not advocating insanity at all. But I totally understand how marriage can make folks feel crazy, because I’ve been there.
So in celebration of Lamar and Ronnie being asked to the Steve Harvey morning show as guests (I know it hasn’t happened yet, but it’s only a matter of time), I tell people what he (Steve Harvey) told church folks at a comedy show a few years back: “Don’t trip….He ain’t through with me yet.”
God bless!
~ Harriet
Harriet Hairston is a woman who slips and slides in and out of labels (military officer, human resource manager, minister, mentor, spoken word artist and teacher). The only ones that have stuck so far are “wife” and “mother” (the most important in her estimation). The rest have taught her well that only what she does for Christ will last. She joyously writes for the site Black and Married with Kids and her own blog entitled “Can She SAY That?!?“ There is one more permanent label she holds: ”author.” You can purchase her first book, ”Who Are You?“ simply by clicking on the link or going to https://www.createspace.com/3430012.
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