A great story about Clergy in Kansas City, KS that have turned the divorce rate in their community totally around.
About the author
Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.
Awww, this is amazing!
I love that it presents the idea that marriages can be saved - and beyond that, are WORTH saving. Blessings to all the couples whose marriages have been sustained...may they remain that way. :)
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I agree, JeLisa! I also love the fact that there are mentors who have been married for years talk to couples who are not married yet to have them do a realistic inventory of the motives behind marriage. Preventing marriages from taking place that have a great risk of ending in divorce is brilliant.
I don't know about preventing marriage as a viable way of preventing divorce. Is that really strengthening marriage, or just boosting numbers? Who are they to tell people that they can't get married? Instead, if two people really love each other, these mentors should focus on how they can have the best marriage possible. Especially in our community, in which marriage is already such a rare event. Should we really be discouraging marriage?
@MTM
Hmm...you make a good point. All I was trying to say was that individuals who want to get married need to look beyond just the warm fuzzy feelings and take a hard look at the realities involved in marriage. If doing that prevents some couples from getting married because they don't think they're ready, then I'm all for that. That's a mature decision made that could potentially turn into something much worse later down the line.
@Harriet
I see where you're coming from too. If they're not ready to take that step, then definitely it's good to know that and to hold off on marriage. I just interpreted these people as more discouraging the marriage entirely than postponing it until the couples were ready.
If a person who can marry people is able to pick and choose who should be married or not, isn't this a slam dunk percentage of his success rate of lowering the divorce rate? LOL.
I don't think they are telling them not to get married they are alerting them to red flags that they may not have realized are there because they A) didn't discuss them or B) ignored them in the name of love and we all know how this normally ends up.
During taping for our new film one of the experts made a comment that marriage is 1% love and 99% work. I don't know if you think those percentages are correct but you've got to believe some of that.
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