Where Are All The Men?
by Aja Dorsey Jackson
The other day a former client of mine stopped by my office briefly to tell me about a new business venture. He is a single Black man in his mid to late twenties. When he left, my coworkers, all women, all but ran back to my office asking questions about him as though they had just spotted Big Foot. For a moment, I was confused by their reactions. After all, is it really that out of the ordinary to see a young, single Black man?
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized, I probably come across a single Black man in a social or professional setting once every six months or so. Granted, I am not looking for a man, so that probably cuts down on the number since I’m never in a situation where trying to find a man is my goal. Yet I did begin to realize that from going to work to going to church to just hanging out, it seems that I am constantly surrounded by women.
It got me wondering, “where are all the men?” And not in that “all Black men are dead, in jail, or gay” kind of way that often gets played up by the media. But in that “where are you physically” kind of way.
I pose this question because I pretty consistently hear the “there are no good Black men out there” stories, and while I know that isn’t true, I also know that I do not see Black men on a regular basis, especially single ones.
So I am asking: Married men, where did your wife find you? Women, where did you meet that good man? And if there are any single Black men reading, please comment so that the next time I hear that there are no good Black men I can tell them where you are!
Aja Dorsey Jackson is a freelance writer and marketing consultant in Baltimore, Maryland. Visit her at The Write Resource at http://ajadorseyjackson.com/BLOG.html or follow her on twitter @ ajajackson.
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