Comments on: Can You Stand the Rain?

By: Ruby Griffin

Ruby Griffin — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:47:06 +0000

Yes.right now i’m stress free…but there was a time,when i complain about this, and that all the time,i blame everybody for my failer,until i finally notice,who was to blame but self…when i became ill,and stay in the hospital,i has to walk around to built up my strenght…and what i seen made me appreciate life,and i started focus on my surrounding of my family…and i ask god to forgive me of my selfish way,and i thank god for the blessing of my family,cause it could have been worst…i didn’t have no problem,back in the days,i just didn’t know any better, cause they was all tiny…now i’m enjoying loving self,respect family,and living life….

By: Pitch Black (215)

Pitch Black (215) — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:02:54 +0000

I appreciate reading your article. The circumstances of the family offered me an opportunity to reflect on my situation and be grateful for the ability to find ways to manage presented lifes challenges. To address the question posed, I dont think anyone can totally avoid stress or stress-related conditions. I do think communicating feeling puts stress in perspective and prevents anyone from believing or thinking they are the cause, means or reason for the discomfort (unless they are). I have learned to take ownership for my feeling and express it; i encourage those in my nucleus to do the same. This often allows use to commit and explore solutions towards eleviating or reducing the stressor.

By: TheSoulMom

TheSoulMom — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:33:22 +0000

I have had some recent challenges… as it seems a lot of people have as well. And I must say that my husband has been quite the rock for me. He keeps me grounded and lets me know if I am starting to act a lil’ crazy. He makes sure to check in with me to make sure that I am okay emotionally. I use that stregnth to help me through. But being stressed does make it difficult at times to deal with the children. During those times when I feel extra stressed, I’ll leave them with my husband while I regroup… take a bath… get on the treadmill or watch my favorite DVR’d show.

By: Aja

Aja — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:45:08 +0000

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement.

@Mocha Dad, I think being able to recognize why you are getting stressed/ upset can be so important. Of course there are going to be times that you react in ways that aren’t the best, but knowing to apologize quickly is something that I know I need to work on.

@ Ronnie- I completely agree with the stress from kids usually coming from me sometimes just needing to take a time out for them. I can get so wrapped up in the house or whatever else that I’m doing that I feel like they are stressing me out when they are just being kids. I’m trying to take more time just to enjoy them.

By: {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After

{JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:23:19 +0000

What an amazing lesson to learn. It is all about reflection and the lens through which you view your life. I admire her strength and positivity and am humbled to be as strong and positive as she is. .-= {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After´s last blog ..The Sweetest Little Things =-.

By: Ronnie

Ronnie — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:56:14 +0000

Thanks for the post Aja…it definitely helps to put things into perspective. When I am stressed, I have to take a time out from whatever I am doing. If the kids are stressing me, it is usually because I am rushing to do something and they want attention. Sometimes I have to just let the chores go and sit down on the family room floor with them.

@Mom of 3 I think you have the right idea..taking the kids for a walk or to the park or just playing in the yard for a few minutes each day is great!!
.-= Ronnie´s last blog ..Former NBA Star Allan Houston Talks About The Importance of Marriage =-.

By: Shayla

Shayla — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:01:41 +0000

Great post Aja!! It definitely puts things in perspective when you think about things that others are going through. You think, wow, my situation is not that bad and just like Harriet said, if you are not dead or homeless or hungry, your life is ok. I often think about my cousin who has been in the same situation as Aja’s friend. She gave birth to a little boy 7 years ago, he too was 1lb and there was a moment when they told her and her husband that he wasnt going to make it and to get the family together because he was as good as gone, all they had to do was give him some medicine and he would go quietly. My aunt was home when she got the call and in the blizzard of February 2003, she made her way back to the hospital just when they were going to give him the medicine and told them that that is not how he going to leave this earth, we will continue to pray that he will live. And he did, not with out a lot of medical problems, he never has walked or even really talked, but he is the sweetest little boy ever and couldnt imagine life without him. So, in thinking about them quite often, I am reminded of all the wonderful blessings that I have and that things could be worse. I do sometimes stress about things that I can not change, and things that I want to happen right now, but I have to remember that I am on God’s time, not anyone elses and when he is ready for things to happen, they will happen. In the meantime, I have a wonderful husband and a great family and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

By: Tara @ The Young Mommy Life

Tara @ The Young Mommy Life — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:34:22 +0000

This is very powerful. I have to learn to be grateful for the things that are going well in my life and not flip out over the little things that make me upset.

Yesterday, for example, my son needed more diapers and wipes at daycare. After working all day and doing a pretty strenuous exercise routine at lunch, I was BEAT! I wanted my husband to go to the store for me, but of course he didn’t. I was so upset that I had to get dressed, get in the car, drive to the store, etc. But I had to stop and think: Does he NOT take the kids to school every day AND pick them up AND handle most of the doctor’s appointments? Does he NOT get down on the floor and play with them while I’m blogging or writing or cooking or cleaning? He is a GREAT husband and I am LUCKY to have him. We’ve gotta cut each other some slack and be happy with the lives we lead. Great post Aja and I know everything will work out for your good.
.-= Tara @ The Young Mommy Life´s last blog ..Princess and the Frog DVD Giveaway =-.

By: Mom of 3

Mom of 3 — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:00:04 +0000

I really enjoyed this post. I have been really frustrated with my kids for several months now, and it isn’t anything they are doing, I’m just tired. I have been praying that God allow me to enjoy my kids more and help me not to lash out at them because I’m stressed and tired. With the spring and summer months approaching, I am hoping to be able to spend more time with them outside doing things they want to do. It is really admirable that in the face of all that is going on around Aja’s friend, she continues to draw her strength from her family and especially her husband.

By: Harriet

Harriet — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:46:19 +0000

Shoot…my family and I have gone through YEARS of instability. I used to lash out every time something went wrong. Thank God they were understanding and forgiving. Now, I’ve come to the realization that if we’re not dead or homeless, then I’ve got an awful lot to be grateful for. I understand that lashing out is not going to resolve anything, so I’ve learned to “laugh it out.”

GREAT article, Aja! I know things will work together for your good! We gotta keep moving to make it happen!
.-= Harriet´s last blog ..Introduce Yourself to Yourself! =-.