Activism = CHANGE…Not Complaint

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by Harriet Hairston

There’s a lot that bothers me about America in general.  We place too much stock in the unessential (stardom, entertainment, gossip) and not enough on the important things (marriage, family, parenthood, children).  Before you tell me to leave and move to another country, let me say that I don’t think any other country would provide me the same opportunities that this one has.  With that said, however, I’ve noticed a few disturbing thought processes:
  • Groupthink:  If you don’t agree with what the media or a community portrays as their take on an issue, then you must not be intellectual or compasssionate.
  • Along the same lines, this “Majority rules in politics, so it must rule within the privacy of each home.”  That’s some bull.  I do things much differently within my family than what I see portrayed in other homes.  No, I’m not burying bodies in my backyard or selling my kids into prostitution, but I do play a role in raising my children as God fearing individuals who will stand for what is right, no matter who opposes them.
  • Complaining!  If something doesn’t go the way someone wants it to, they complain and complain and complain, thinking the squeaky wheel will get the oil.  In my humble opinion, all that complaining (i.e. Tea Parties whose participants don’t even know what they’re protesting and complaining about) does nothing but take up unnecessary space and oxygen.

How do we get beyond these issues?

  • Well for one thing, stop imitating and BE someone!  So many people want to be like someone else.  It’s fine to believe in someone’s principles, but to imitate personalities is insulting to God.  Be yourself!
  • Stop complaining and DO something!  Don’t think one person can make a difference?  Well, look at the quiet servitude of Martin Luther King, Jr., the crashing confidence of Muhammad Ali, or even the time changing, revolutionary drive of Jesus Christ!  They all made a difference one day, one word, one action at a time.  We can do the same!
  • Get involved!  Instead of complaining, get educated on the issues you’re passionate about.  Then go find a way to bring them to the stage, whether it’s creating a documentary about the plight of fatherlessness in the African American community like Janks Morton, or bringing to light the positive impacts of African American marriage like Lamar and Ronnie Tyler!

BMWK,  leave a comment about what drives you as a U.S. Citizen…then tell me how you’re going to get involved and make a change in your life and the lives of those in your immediate surroundings!  Let’s stop complaining and make that change!

God bless!

~ Harriet

Harriet Hairston is a woman who slips and slides in and out of labels (military officer, human resource manager, minister, mentor, spoken word artist and teacher).  The only ones that have stuck so far are “wife” and “mother” (the most important in her estimation). The rest have taught her well that only what she does for Christ will last. There is one more permanent label she holds:  ”author.”  You can purchase her first book, ”Who Are You?“  simply by clicking on the link.  You can also contact her at harriet_hairston@yahoo.com.


About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.



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  • http://ReclaimBlackFamily.wordpress.com Tracey

    This is exactly why I decided to change the direction of my career. I am a family law/criminal attorney and if you don’t know by now, these are the areas of the legal system that I see the systemic iniquities being lodged against our community. I became so unnerved not only by the system but by how our community seems to be the perpetual target in EVERY aspect. I been practising for about 12 years and realized that all the help I thought I was giving was pretty much a band aid solution to a much larger problem. Not only do I plan on doing my community outreach, but I plan to dedicate the rest of my life affecting change on the legislative level (in addition to other avenues). I am starting to not to like America either.
    .-= Tracey´s last blog ..Little to No Traffic for Online Search of “Black Family” =-.

  • Gigi

    If your busy lifestyle prevents you from attending city council meetings or school board meetings, check out your local public access television station or talk radio. Become a more educated/aware consumer and participate in the democratic process. Become a member of a likeminded group that will keep you informed on matters of your concern and mobilize when needed.

    Our representatives, at every level are accessible via the internet. You can send emails, make phone calls directly to your representative and subscribe to newsletters to stay current. There really are not any excuses for not letting your voice be heard. ‘Out of sight, out of mind’ is not a good political strategy. Be visible, be heard, let them know you by name. You taxes are paying for their representation whether you voted for them in the last election or not.

    IF NOTHING ELSE…ASK SOMEONE,
    AND
    ALWAYS, ALWAYS
    VOTE YOUR BEST INTEREST!!

    ‘Til a change come.

  • http://politicalmusic.wordpress.com Political Pete

    Nice article Harriet.

    @Tracey, we have something in common. I did criminal defense work, – capital defense – appellate advocacy. I now work with kids because I decided to work on the beginning of the continuum versus the end.

    Harriet, I must admit that I had to check myself when I finally started talking with some of these old elders and civil rights protesters down here in Birmingham about 4 years ago. One conversation he had with me illustrated the problem. We were talking about the community and he simply asked me…

    “What are you doing?”

    I was dumbfounded. I immediately thought about the litany of organizations that I am a member. Put simply though, the work organizations are doing aren’t enough considering the amount of resources, with few exceptions.

    Of course, I work in the public interest sector, but sometimes, that’s not enough and can really lull you into complicity. I stopped looking at my public interest work as service. Service is free.

    In an electronic world, it’s easy sometimes to forward an article, debate about it, point fingers, or create an identity of consciousness. I like to call it the costume of consciousness.

    From that conversation on forward, I stop waiting for anyone to give back. We are intelligent enough to do simple things that will go a long way. I have started two grassroots groups with a low number of members and we’ve accomplished more than any affiliate chapter I’ve been apart of…

    headed on a plane now lol
    .-= Political Pete´s last blog ..Barry White & Black Moon =-.

  • http://www.nwennakai.com Nwenna Kai

    Love this article. Trying to imitate or be someone else is exhausting. Its the perfect time to celebrate our unique selves.
    .-= Nwenna Kai´s last blog ..Dec 12, Nwenna Kai – The Goddess of Raw Foods =-.