Please God, Don’t Let It End!!!
by Ronnie Tyler
Hubby: Hey boo
Me: Hey babes we miss u
Hubby: Follow my tweets today
Me: Ok
My husband and I were texting as he attended an all day social media conference a few weeks ago. I love him to death!! And when we are apart, I miss him dearly. And when he comes home after being away, I am so excited to see him. Please God, don’t let this feeling end!!
We have been together for 7 years and married for almost five years. When people see us, they think our love is so cute. When they ask how long we’ve been married, they say: “Oh you are newlyweds.” Newlyweds?? Since when does being married for 5 years make you a newlywed??? Wikipedia says that you are considered a newlywed: if you have been married for less than one or two years, or until you have kids, or until you stop behaving like newlyweds (i.e. laughing, playing, having lots of sex, etc.) Well we have been married for almost 5 years, we have 4 kids (a blended family) and we have not stopped acting like newlyweds!! Please God, don’t let it end!!
It’s almost like people expect you to grow apart and to just settle into a routine that does not include having fun, being excited about each other, being playful, etc. While I know that everyday life can get hectic, stressful, busy, tiring…etc, I don’t believe that I have to settle for a life without playful moments, missing someone, having a friend, a lover, and a boo 
.
So how do we plan to keep the excitement alive? As Ayize and Aiyana say, we will be intentional about making our marriage work by:
- Continuously working on our marriage (education, workshops, reading materials, counseling…whatever it takes to keep it strong.)
- Continue to date each other and ensure that set aside quality time to spend with each other
- Continue to be affectionate with each other (daily hugs, kisses and I love yous…)
After dating my husband for a couple of months, I called my friend that introduced us and said Lamar is a sweetie pie. And almost 7 years later, he’s still my sweetie pie…my boo. Please God, don’t let it end!!
BMWK Family – how long have you been married? Are you still having fun together? How do you plan to keep the excitement alive?
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Comments (9)
I hope it NEVER ends because I am enjoying being his wife so much. It's honestly better than I thought it would be! :)
Maria - you expressed exactly the point I was trying to convey in this post!! And I find myself also giving thanks during my morning jogs...the morning air is so refreshing, and it is such a peaceful time that makes you think of all of the wonderful things you have to be thankful for such as a wonderful husband and family.
CC - like you, I have had some pretty bad examples too...which is why I made up my mind that I want different for my marriage. If you are having fun together now, then that does not have to change after marriage..just don't let life get in the way of your love for each other....there will be problems.. but at the end of the day you have to remember that you are a team and are friends...and keep a positive attitude.
Harriet..you are right... I am going to pray that it gets gooder and gooder :-)
Chocolate Mom - thanks for sharing and for showing that things can get better!!
Nadia - I pray that things get better for you as well. I am glad to read that you are both working on making it better. One thing that has helped in my relationship is communication. We actually do a check point with each other to find out if the other person is happy, if the other person has concerns...to discuss our goals for our marriage....to talk about things that we need to work on...etc. And we have made it a point to participate in some type of marriage related workshop, ministry, conference..etc each year.