The Two-Faced Fighter?
by Harriet Hairston
I’d like to introduce you to an author who loves to help others through her work. She is exciting, pleasant to be around, full of humor, always willing to lend a hand to others in need. Her children are well mannered and fun loving. They love to play, run, laugh and learn. She and her husband struggle financially, but they don’t allow that to get in the way of their love for one another. Given the fact that money, sex and communication are the three big reasons why people are getting divorced, their marriage is both miraculous and beautiful. They are full of faith, and give of themselves whenever the opportunity arises to do so.
That is the face everyone on the outside sees. That is the picture of happily ever after she paints for those who care about and love her. That is the light that shines through the darkness of the midnight season she is fighting through right now. Although her story on the outside is a reality, the face raging within her is just as real, and at times it threatens to destroy all she has sacrificed her blood, sweat and tears for. That darkness shows itself in the following ways:
- Irritability and low tolerance for small inconveniences
- Short temper
- Self loathing (since she’s been married, she has gained 80 lbs. and can’t find the time to work out like she needs to)
- Thoughts that her husband and children would be better off without her
- A lack of interest in things that once brought her joy
She wrote about this very attitude in her book, and she hates the fact that this face has risen again. Every time something big is about to happen, or a transition is about to take place, this kind of darkness attempts to rear its ugly head.
It happened just before she gave her life to Christ. It happened right before she left for college. It happened right before she began and ended her military career. It happened two weeks before she found out she was pregnant. And now, it’s happening again…right after she quit her job to pursue a career in motivational speaking.
People have gained freedom from her words, and for her to succumb to this darkness would make her the highest order of hypocrite. So this two-faced fighter, who is determined to get beyond the darkness with faith, perseverance, prayer, exercise, and an occasional B-12 vitamin, takes this moment to introduce herself to the new world she is creating for herself.
Her name is Harriet Hairston. And she has come too far to give up now.
God bless!
~ Harriet
Harriet Hairston is a woman who slips and slides in and out of labels (military officer, human resource manager, minister, mentor, spoken word artist and teacher). The only ones that have stuck so far are “wife” and “mother” (the most important in her estimation). The rest have taught her well that only what she does for Christ will last. There is one more permanent label she holds: ”author.” You can purchase her first book, ”Who Are You?“ simply by clicking on the link. You can also contact her at harriet_hairston@yahoo.com.
About the author
Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.
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