So You Want Love, Do You?

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by Lamar Tyler | on August 6th, 2010 | 8 comments

by Eric Payne

Adapted from the post “What Is Love?” originally posted at MakesMeWannaHoller.com

Dear Wanter of Love,

You want love so bad, you can taste it.

You want love because it is so necessary for your life.

You want love because you deserve it.

But do you even know what I am?

Can you comprehend the stuff I’m made of?

Do you know what love feels, tastes, smells and looks like?

Do you truly understand how patient and kind I am?

Can you fathom the burden of understanding that I must bear?

Do you know that I forgive and forget all things done against me?

Do you even have the space in your heart required by me to fill it?

Or is there other stuff there, like lust and want and selfish desires?

Do you know that I only seek the best for others, the best in others,

and pay little to no attention to myself?

Do you know my power?

I end wars, change hearts and give life.

I raise children, save lives at the expense of self

and make Good Samaritans into local heroes.

I teach children to grow up to be leaders.

I give religious leaders guidance and ask that they walk righteously and care for their flocks.

I give hope in the face of unimaginable tragedy and despair.

I heal wounds…in time…

I make the days go by beautifully.

I am the perfect director of regret-free living…

How is it that you want me sooo bad…how do you receive something that you should be giving…freely?

If you truly wanted me, you wouldn’t want for me at all.

Because you’ll be too busy pouring me out on all you encounter.

You’ll be ready and full of praise when I do arrive at your doorstep,

Fully ready to be nourished by me and ready to nourish in return.

You’ll recognize me immediately, because I will already be alive inside of you.

Sincerely,

Love

Author of the now infamous, My Wife Is NOT My Friend (on Facebook), Eric Payne (E.Payne) is the creator and author of MakesMeWannaHoller.com – Man, Dad, Husband, his blog on fatherhood and marriage. You can also follow him on Twitter, or join the Makes Me Wanna Holler Facebook Page. When he’s not dishing on fatherhood and family he’s dishing on restaurants and NYC tourism at NYMetropolista.com. He’s also a contributing relationship writer for J’Adore Magazine.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

http://gods-man.blogspot.com/ Gods_Man

Great Post. Reminds me of 1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self?seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
http://gods-man.blogspot.com/ Gods_Man

Great Post. Reminds me of 1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self?seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Harriet

Wow…this was a great illustration of 1 Corinthians 13! I loved this part especially:

“If you truly wanted me, you wouldn’t want for me at all.

Because you’ll be too busy pouring me out on all you encounter.”
Misslaknight

very good post
Mom of 3

Great post.
Azilorchid

WOW. If Love had a voice I think it would resound in us all the way I felt these words in my own heart.
Staycee2

WOW!!! Simply amazing!!!!
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