AUDIO: Dr. Laura Drops The N-Bomb Like It’s Nobody’s Business
On Thursday Dr. Laura Schlessenger took the opportunity to tell America what she really thinks about the N-Word. An unsuspecting black caller wanted advice on what she should do about her white husband who laughs at racist and insensitive jokes around her when he’s with his friends. Well Dr. Laura used this as an opportunity to go all Dave Chappelle on the black woman repeatedly saying Nig… Nig… Nig… and letting her know what she thought about the N-Word double standard, black folks hypersensitivity and the chip you have on your shoulder if you’ve got a problem with it. What was she thinking? Check out the audio below…
BMWK family, what do you teach your kids about racism? Is this a teachable moment, if so will you use it? What do you teach your kids about the N-Word double standard?
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you're going to stop LISSONING to her show? Did you go to school? LISTENING!!!!
Dr. Laura says she don't get it...I can say thats about the only thing she was right about...I agree LAMAR...she didn't address the reason the lady called... & just because HBO & other networks say the N word doesn't make it right...if someone else jumped off a bridge would you follow....I'm just saying
Then she dropped some lame apology on her website. Nobody saying nig... nig... nig... over and over all of a sudden realizes that it was wrong. She even went to break and came talking that same mess. The big wigs made a call and told her to straighten this mess out.
I think most wives whether they were being super-sensitive or not would want their husband to address something that his friends and family were doing that made them feel uncomfortable.
THANK YOU for creating a venue to discuss this incident. YES it absolutely IS a teachable moment! This is a teachable moment for EVERYONE—adults included!
1.Dr. Laura Schlesinger’s behavior was a total disgrace and totally unprofessional. Not only did she FAIL to offer a list of coping skills or an exit strategy to the caller (which a functional practitioner would have done) but she ***used a request for help*** to ventilate her racial anger, frustrations, and apathy about race relations between blacks and whites as well black activists, black organizations, and the President himself. She abused the relationship, she abused her power, and she missed an opportunity to help someone.
2.It is NEVER okay to accept abuse in ANY situation. It is NEVER okay to encourage anyone to remain in abusive situations. Requiring African Americans or any other non-European ethnic or racial group to accept psychological violence, verbal abuse, or hazing by whites in multicultural relationships, or environments is no different than telling a woman to remain with a wife beater or a child to not report a child molester. Abuse is about power and control—event if the motivations are racial supremacy. It’s still abuse.
3.While I disagree with her admonishment of “if you don’t have a sense of humor and are hyper sensitive you shouldn’t marry out of your race” I will say that if African Americans aren’t prepared to accept the reality that non-blacks including other ethnic groups have racist family members who will abuse you and your children then may want to rethink interracial relationships. If your spouse and his immediate family are unable or unwilling to defend you, require that you and your offspring be treated with respect, and set the tone for how you are to be treated, you may want to rethink interracial marriages. You’re going to half to weigh the costs. If someone loves you, they should respect your heritage, history, and customs—even if they don’t agree. Often times these non-black spouses are romantically interested in the individual and don’t see the individual as apart a larger culture. If you aren’t allowed to have ethnic self-respect while respecting others you need to have a conversation with yourself about your self-esteem and integrity.
4.If Dr. Laura Schlesinger and others who think like her cared so deeply about the misuse of the N word they would dismantle the structure in our country that terrorizes, and destroys communities of color through economic, political, social, and psychological warfare attacks upon the members of those communities. Her aggravation at the so called double standard is a code for the whites who are pushing the reverse racism agenda in order to protect their white privilege. This is why she rebuts with “Don’t you NAACP me!”
5.People who use profanity are devoid of intellect and the ability to present themselves. We are human. We slip. But profanity as a way of life is foreign to me. I consider the N word profane. I don’t believe in listening to much of modern music. My children don’t use these words and no they will be disciplined if they do. When they are older they will learn the history of this word. The word isn’t wrong because white people say it’s wrong. The word is immoral because of its history and what it stands for. I don’t need validation from non whites to function.
6.Finally, bearing in mind all I have written. Keeping in mind the origin of the word, at the end of the day I’d say the real *N* is Dr. Laura Schlesinger.
Her thinking and behavior are indicative of many whites and non blacks in our country. This is why outside of the workplace and university I’m skeptical of “universalist” or “multicultural” venues. If you aren’t one of those African Americans who is mentally dead or deranged from a lack of ethnic self-respect which is to be differentiated from black nationalism you will have observed that in these so called multiculturalists venues blacks are often required to become a blank slate devoid of history, culture, and achievement while other non black ethnic groups like the Latin’s are rewarded for their ethnic self-respect and solidarity. In fact, it is their refusal to give up their ethnic self-respect (refusal to give up language, culture, or even leave the country) that has whites who know full well the benefit of their privileges enraged and enamored. They are frustrated at what they perceive to be a sense of entitlement from Latin’s but it’s perceived by others as ethnic self-respect.
This pathology in whites and even some non black ethnic groups is why I ‘m against trans-racial adoption. Luckily the caller is an adult with the willfulness and capability to terminate the relationship, thus, ending the psychological violence, verbal abuse, and hazing she is being subjected to. For those who have been trans-racially adopted by whites who feel entitled to help themselves to the children of African Diaspora without a care to reforming the structure that created the need for adoption in the first place hold the same views as this woman. On top of the abuse, these children are subjected to isolation and segregation as they are raised by whites who mistakenly assume they can pass on their white privilege to non-white children. These children are often denied functional cultural experiences, the ability to learn their history and heritage as well the opportunity to connect to functional folks from their ancestry. They are not taught racial discipline or ethnic self-respect. In my opinion, trans-racial adoption is an extremist subject of Universalism and Multiculturalism.
Finally, any sound mental health practitioner worth their salt will tell you that being exposed to pro-longed chronic stress, hostility, disorganization, and abuse will break you down psychologically. This can cause depression, panic disorders, and post-traumatic disorder depending upon the severity of the abuse. Ethnic self respect, racial discipline, being connected to other functional productive members of your ethnic group through fellowship, and experiencing cultural experiences that celebrate achievement are normal coping mechanisms to racism. Eliminating these practices takes away the ability of the person to cope and thus manage the situation so that it doesn’t spiral out of control and create a crisis –like the one the caller is in now. Dr. Laura Schlesinger’s warfare attacks on black activists and the NAACP are attempts to eliminate the resources and coping tools for those suffering from injustice. Which is why I stand by word that she abused her power in that phone call.
In actuality, it’s the rest of her rant that drips with racial animus. To recap: Dr. Laura immediately dismisses her caller’s problems, uses a racist joke to prove her non-racism, insists that black people voted for Obama over nothing but racial solidarity (as if pre-Obama, African Americans never voted for Democrats), strongly resents the fact that “black guys” can use the “N-word” but she can’t, and declares that “If you’re that hypersensitive about color and don’t have a sense of humor, don’t marry outside of your race.” Dr. Laura isn’t known for her sensitivity, but this is an impressive display of raw racial resentment.