When Having Fun With Your Kids Goes Horribly Wrong AKA She Just Took Us 10 Steps Back!

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   Tyesha Taylor Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   Wow... that was just horrible. She was just nasty. Why was that cute? I'm sorry but black women have a horribly low level of self esteem these days. It is so sad. Please teach your daughters that they are beautiful and having morals and values is never a bad thing.
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   Lamar Tyler Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   I think the fact that it looks like they planned it out alarms me even more.
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   Lisa Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   There are always two ways to present/react to ANY situation and that is either negative or positive.....it is sad to see that majority of times the negative is chosen. In reference to the two videos above, the presentation alone shows how each mother chooses to raise there boys. Look how the first mother is dressed compared to the other mom, where the video is taken shows you the mindset of the parent. What is most disturbing is that the first mother probably doesn't think that she is doing anything wrong, and when her boys grow up and are disrepectful to women and treat women as sexual objects, she will be the first to say " I don't know what happend"......SAD!
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   frances bunting Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   I am laughing at Lamar statement! I think that biggest problem lies within the parents becoming parents at such young ages and them not having good home training. It seems like to me so many women want to be in the VIDEO that they forget that they have an influence on their children and the actions of others. The first video is something that makes me thing that why would you think dancing like that with a I am assuming a 2-3 yr old and an 9-10 yr old is acceptable. I mean how does she think they will view her and other females. The second video reminds me of my family. We dont do the booty shaking and other immortal dances. I dont even let my 4 kids watch music videos they are nothing to copy any way.
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   SweetMom Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   Mess. But truth be told...bad parenting reates bad parenting creates bad parenting. That problem came long before this mama. And let me say this; bad parenting does not just mean being this type of example that is shown in the first video. Bad parenting comes from ignoring your children adn making yourself a number one priority, causing children to find their own way. Not nurturing your children and allowing them to live completely "independent" of you. The Word of God says "train up a child in the way that they should go and when they are old, they will not depart from it." training is not telling them what to do, it is being an example of how to live. Even if you are not a Christian, it does not excuse our responsibility to raise up children in a manner that they know that they are worth more than a "drop it like it's hot" or "pimpin'". And for those of us who are grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc; we have a responsibility to show these children a better way, even if their parents can't or won't.
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   Lamar Tyler Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   Great comment
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   DENETRIAKENT Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   I think that it is horrible how the young mothers want there kids to be hip and look like the videos with the sagging pants acting ignorant I am a proud married black mother of 12 yes 12 and they are all mine and we just don't act like that YOUNG BLACK WOMEN YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE THESE BEAUTIFUL BLACK CHILDREN TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT AND THEY WILL RESPECT THEM SELVES WHEN THERE YOUR AGE
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   Tara Pringle Jefferson Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   See, this is why I blog. This right here. So often - when people think "young mothers" they think of the "mom" in the first video. Irresponsible, sexual inappropriate in front of her kids, a horrible role model, etc. I call on my readers (other young mothers) to set that example, to show our peers that we can be great mothers, that we don't have to fit into the (however misconstrued) stereotype. We can do better. We have to do better.
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   Anonymous Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

   Wow...I'm literally speechless...I think the tats on the face gave me an idea of what I was about to witness...I feel sorry for her children because her actions instill values that will not benefit them in school, in their workplace, or in relationships. Thank you BMWK for 1) having the courage to post this because too often we are afraid to deal with the more negative aspects of our culture, and 2) posting a more positive example of motherhood, because too often some folks think all black people act like mother #1.
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    Heavenwbc Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    the first video is the most disgusting thing Ive ever seen in my life.... especially when the lil guy was trying to put the fake dollars in moms disgusting belly button and she flicked his hand away..... its amazing how some people spend thousands of dollars on science to get pregnant...... and raggedy heffas like this one pop babies out every week..... just to raise them to be hoodrats.... and these are the same lil dudes that will probably grow up and try to grab my daughters ass when she is walking through the mall..... SOmebody please call dept of children and families on this simple ass broad PLEASE!!!!
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    April Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    I won't even comment on the first video, because we all know that is beyond ridiculous. Now as for the second video, I loved it. You can tell the mom and the son had respect for each other, right down to the way they took turns being the lead and back-up. So sweet and cute; it reminds me of my daughter and I doing the hustle and cha-cha in the kitchen!
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    Jonesi Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    I am beyond horrified by the first video! And, as much as I would love to bash the mother, I feel even more pity for her because she is an adult and seemingly a lost cause at this point. The boys are children who are being conditioned in the same manner she apparently was that has created a horrible cycle many young people are apart of today - it isn't just affecting "us" - I think it's just more on display. Where I live, a young mother (21yrs old) was just arrested and charged for teaching her 2yr old daughter how to smoke weed while recording it on her camera phone. To be honest, I "know" mothers like the lady in the first video and have often wondered...how did they end up like that. Regardless of your environment, how does good wholesome, common sense escape you to that degree?? It leaves me speechless...Sounds bad but those children need to be removed from her care. :-(
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    Camjam16 Tuesday - 28 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    I guess my questions are: What do we do about this? Is there anything that can be done? How did we as a people get to this point? Is it too late to turn things around? I refuse to bash the young lady in the first video because I highly suspect she's used to poor treatment by people who were supposed to love and care about her. What (if anything) can we do about stuff like this?
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    Jenise Bradshaw Wednesday - 29 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    Wow, the 1st video just reminds me of the challenges that I will face once God helps me do what I was set to do on this earth. I don't think she needs to be reported, she is not abusing these kids, however she is misguided and are thus misguiding her children.
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    mochamom_of_3 Wednesday - 29 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    This right here. So very true.
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    Aja Dorsey Jackson Wednesday - 29 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    I think the problem in the first video goes much deeper than the innapropriate song or dancing. Just looking at the woman in the video I feel like she might have some mental issues (what is all over her face?) There are some people in this world regardless of age, marital status etc. that just should not have kids, I think that's always been the case. What makes this more disturbing is the fact that somebody actually thought it would be cute to plan this out and record it. Poor babies.
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    Anonymous Wednesday - 29 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    First- I see no real difference between the first video and what Brittney Spears, Lil Wayne etc, etc, etc have made millions of dollars doing on TV and on stage in front of their own children with bigger budgets. What really saddens me is to see people posting comments about poor people or uneducated people, or black people or black women or young mothers in general as if this mindset is something that is unique to these groups. She hasn't taken anyone else 10 steps back except those who accept that this random woman represents them and believe that there are only certain subgroups that have these type of troubles. This is one woman playing inappropriately with what appear to be her kids. What she is doing is not right. Yet I don't assume she meant to be harmful. I don't assume she knows any better. I know people with graduate degrees and upper class lifestyles that NEVER play with their kids. So if the purpose is to learn from this, why not choose to start from a place of love and growth instead of condemnation and attacking her sanity or humanity? “I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach." - Maya Angelo
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      richie Wednesday - 10 / 11 / 2010 Reply

      sorry but there are exactly zero rich people who act like that woman in the first video. this behavior is unique to people lacking education and money... whether or not you like that statement, it's true.
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    Pecansandie Wednesday - 29 / 09 / 2010 Reply

    OOOOOMMMMGGGGG!!! The first video is child abuse and it sickens me on so many levels......so, so, so wrong. And of course she immortalized herself in an internet video. People have no shame. Teaching your small children how to rain fake money on you is awful. Kudos to the good mom, dancing is healthy and fun.
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    Cat Saturday - 08 / 01 / 2011 Reply

    As a young mother myself I would never do any of this around my son. I hate it when one black person do something stupid others have to "pay" for it! I wasn't the one dancing like a stripper in front of my child so why do all the young mother have to get thrown under the bus?! I'm in college,looking for a job,getting married in 6 months and I never fit any of the stereotypes people try to put me in.