Black Marriage Negotiations Video: Funny or Sad?

Dianne M Daniels Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Not funny - sad. Perpetuates stereotypes of black professional women while making men the victims. Just SMH...

MTM Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I didn't vote because I find it funny and sad. It's sad because it's true, but it's also funny for the same reason. The best kind of satire is firmly rooted in the truth, and that got a lot of Black women dead right.

Tarisf Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Sad and funny at the same time.

Che_2005 Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

This video is true so very ture and sad becasue its true

Lamar Tyler Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

@MTM- I added both as an option after seeing your comment and reading that a lot of our Facebook people also said the same. It will be interesting to see how this turns out. I have my opinion but I'll save it for later.

Jujukeys Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Sadly I have heard all that too many times and see it too!

Ashleigh L.A. Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I thought I was the only one....it basically removes all fault from the men...

William, V.A. Tuesday - 26 / 10 / 2010 Reply

First, let us remember what a stereotype is and is not: A stereotype is not a LIE, but rather a generalization with just enough truth in it to promote its spreading and acceptance. Part of the entire problem in my opinion is that black women are too quick to think in the adversarial terms of "us vs. them". Noman with sense desires to marry an adversary. It's not about removing all fault from men or even villifying women; it's about finding ways to build bridges to one another and addressing the real and legitimate concerns that we have with each other. This video presents some real issues just as its companion video expressed from the female perspective. We do ourselves a disservice to get caught up in the form of the presentation vs. its substance

ShaRhonda Taylor Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

im voted sad and funny because thats what my husband wanted i personally think its sad. it could be funny cause its woman like that but me myself im not like that so its sad. u want a man dog him out by saying theres none left and u have one qualifies as if he is a job applicant then because hes nt tall enough u say no the kids part was terrible no wonder shes alone i love you husband...makes me appreciate what i have at home

Jbngrace Thursday - 14 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I refuse to vote because I don't think it's funny and the only sad thing about it is that it's getting real old hearing this stereotype of black women perpetuated when I know PLENTY of black women who neither think nor behave like this.

mochazina Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

OK - i'll be the dissenter and say I found it funny. i think it's intended as a comedic over-kill type representation of the many issues we discuss here on BMWK.

Girltalk Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

It’s sad but so true. As a women was ask men to do and be all the above. But we don’t know how to do just one thing SUBMIT. Sad. But true

mohagannie Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Sadly I have a friend that soooorta has that mentality. When she says silly things (like relating endowment to skin color), I laugh. Soooo you can figure out my vote. ... True not aaaaall sisters think this way. I am one who doesn't. The video (while slightly over the top) points out a few (okay a lot) of silly nonessential demands SOME women make. Once, during a book club meeting a lady was adamant about her man being physically fit and going to the gym. When asked "Well how often do you work out" the reply "Oh girl that is not important! He just needs to be able to pick me up". Yep you guessed it! She is STILL single AND you could tell she hadn't seen the gym OR an exercise video in a good minute! LOL YES ... we had plenty of comments for her BUT she was convinced she could make demands for a man to look like he was the spokesperson for P90X while she could be prime contestant for the Biggest Loser...ok that was was stretch but she was eeeeeeextra thick. (almost done) I have a degree, a cute lil house, car and all the fixin's BUT I don't go yelling "RESPECT ME IMMA INDEPENDENT CHICK" every chance I get... buuuut I know chicks who do (I have seen it!! lol) .... The truth makes for the best comedy...

MzNikkiaa Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

This is truly sad. Ladies, let's stop contradicting ourselves and sending brothers mixed signals.

Bryan Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

That was hilarious! Have we gotten so serious that we can't laugh at what was obviously a joke?

Ed Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I voted both... It is truly sad but I can't help but laugh because I cannot count how many times I've had this conversation in real life...

reefinyateef Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

This is hilarious! It's a parody and definitely not true in real life - don't take it personal :)

Aja Dorsey Jackson Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I didn't vote because my answer is funny and then boring. I just took it as a parody but I lost interest after the first minute or so.

busybodyk Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I think its sad, funny AND TRUE for some women, NOT all. I know a few women like this. Some of them are married, some not. We're all responsible for getting together and fixing the state of black relationships that's why I love BMWK.

Nicole Denise Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Although I can definitely see the merit in those that view it as a sad commentary. I simply took it for what it was---just a parody. I dont believe the video was made to generalize all black women. But it just so happens thats how and why stereotypes are created. Right or wrong, somewhere along the way, someone said or did something to solidfy a certain perspective. Do all black women think like the woman in the video? Heavens no. Are there some that do? Yes! And thats why its funny because their conflicting expectations are hilariously ridiculous ;-)

Nicole Denise Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Although I can definitely see the merit in those that view it as a sad commentary. I simply took it for what it was---just a parody. I dont believe the video was made to generalize all black women. But it just so happens thats how and why stereotypes are created. Right or wrong, somewhere along the way, someone said or did something to solidfy a certain perspective. Do all black women think like the woman in the video? Heavens no. Are there some that do? Yes! And thats why its funny because their conflicting expectations are hilariously ridiculous ;-)

Sherry Pringle Friday - 15 / 10 / 2010 Reply

This video is definitely depicting an exaggeration of what black women want in a man. I don’t think one black woman truly feels this way overall. However, if separately dissected, the confusing and contradicting beliefs are what too many of our black men get hit with when dating black women. I didn’t feel that any blame was being tossed around. This video is really more like a good man’s cry for help. Face it, good men are just trying to give their women what they want but can’t if that woman doesn’t know what that is herself.

Dallas Black Saturday - 16 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I laughed and experienced deja vu with women I have gone out on dates with in the past. Hilarious.

Erika Saturday - 16 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Its hilarious!! absolutely funny! On both sides. A black man making 6 figures that acts like a punk (as the cartoon guy acts) that's funny. Cuz what REAL woman wants a man that's a punk? But the funny part of it is (which I guess is sad in a SMH kind of way) is that women stare the "good men" in the face on a day to day basis and look over/through/above/below/around him because she couldn't "check" one of her many "boxes" for him or he doesn't "look" the part. It goes to what women really want. We say we want a good man, but will we take a decent man with good man potential if he doesnt come in a blue Tiffany's box with all the right credentials??? The resounding answer is no. Instead we stay with the buttwipes, and "i'monlylivinginmymomsbasementuntilmydisabilitygetsapproved", or the cant keep it in his pants type, or the other varieties of bottom feeders out there. So yes, its funny. Sometimes we women stand the dumb stuff because we ourselves stand for the dumbest stuff. (You can quote me on that last line)

Only The Tall Saturday - 16 / 10 / 2010 Reply

It's funny to me. We all know a woman like this in our circle of friends or colleagues and if you don't know one, you're probably that woman.

Anisha Vanita Saturday - 16 / 10 / 2010 Reply

http://anishavanita.blogspot.com/2010/10/expected-end-response-to-black-marriage.html

Marcus Eugene Atkinson Sunday - 17 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think the man was acting like a punk. I think the point was he was trying to speak up, but he was being ignored.

Dona Monday - 18 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Well, my vote is in...Funny and Sad. I posted a similar topic on my blog -http://chocolateroseonline.wordpress.com (Mr or Mrs Right) If we could create our ideal partner, by taking a little bit of this type and mixing with a little bit of that type, would be satisfying or would the list continue to grow? Though there are some women who feel this way, which may be a little unrealistic, but when their reality sets in, they'll surely have a change of heart.

TPKBosslady Monday - 18 / 10 / 2010 Reply

As long as we "black women" continue to claim sh*t like as our stereotype, it will be sad. I however find it VERY funny because it is ab obvious exaggeration of a small sector of black women. Yes, most of us are particular and have a variety of things we "look for" in a mate. But any woman with some sense knows that a checklist is merely a guide and no human is going to live up to all of those things AND be 6'5" - that just ain't realistic! Now, if you are one of those livin-in-a-fantasy-think-you-are-looking-for-a-good-man-when-you-yourself-ain't-really-a-good-woman women, then continue living in your fantastic world where this man exists. Then when you wake up one day at 50 MANLESS you'll see how all them standards just keep your dumb a$$ ALONE, LONLEY, and sexually VOID.

Anonymous Monday - 18 / 10 / 2010 Reply

I find this to be mean, sarcastic and more sad than anything else. It is not sad because the video reflects reality; it is sad because that is how some people view reality. As RevGweg's daughter, I am insulted because I find that most women are demanding, not just black women. And while we can be demanding, we also make sacrifices. It's not like a woman should really expect to be in complete control of a relationship while giving nothing back herself. This video has a very discouraging viewpoint and casts a very negative stereotype.

truby Monday - 18 / 10 / 2010 Reply

This is exactly the kind of woman a brother don't need. Women like this have a way of raising a brother's blood pressure. Not saying that all brothers have it together either, but this sister don't need to put her poison on no brother; she need to stay by herself and be happy by herself.

Krystle McNeill Rodriguez Tuesday - 19 / 10 / 2010 Reply

maybe if people started looking at black relationships through more than just the lense of a tyler perry movie, this wouldn't be necessary.

Krystle McNeill Rodriguez Tuesday - 19 / 10 / 2010 Reply

please stop with the "we". talk about some, most, but not "we". I have been with the same man for six years, married for two, and trust that never once was a blue box brought into this house and never once would that have been a reason I would or would not choose to be with him.

it's the issue of this "we", this weird suggestion that there is a global black mindset that keeps a number of people of our race in such a stagnant position in life.

Bozo Wednesday - 20 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Sad, but true. And quite funny. Yes. Then again, if the reader (like me) grew up with parents whose cirle of friends - in the 70s, mind you - included several black woman/white man married couples, it begs the question: Who...cares...what...color...Mister...or...Misses...Right...is? I suppose that's what we get for allowing white social workers in our homes talking about " as long you get the black man outta the house, we former slavery supporters (uh, Democrats) will take goooood care of your so-called black family". Funeral in two decades. Once we give that whole mindset some time to infiltrate black middle class minds, them blacks will destroy themselves. After enslaving and oppressing them for 300-350 years, it shouldn't be this easy. MEMO TO DEMS: It is. Just catch us at our weakest moment in history. We needed capital, and damn the black family. But again. WHO FREAKING CARES ABOUT STINKIN SKIN COLOR? No, I'm not MLK Jr., so I have to nice that sh.......stuff up. Pouring Aunt Jemima all of a pile of poop don't make it pancakes. Any questions? Just don't call the Democrat Party Slave Catcher on me. He gone! Sincerely, Boze

Bozo Wednesday - 20 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Okaaaaay. Poor proofreading; missed some typos. Meant to say: "No, I'm not MLK Jr., so I DON'T have to nice that sh.......stuff up. Pouring Aunt Jemima all OVER a pile of poop don't make it pancakes." And we're still dumb as hell for letting outsiders - them, of all people - destroy our community structure. That rub you wrong? Think about it. What other race of people woulda let that crap go down? Whites? Hispanics? Asians? Nope. Take it from a predominantly black, albeit still a mixed-race mutt......me. Call me a Coconut Oreo, I suppose. But I can say Black Jimmy Carter's trying to get the aforementioned races dependent like that. At least for another 2 weeks 'til election day. UNLESS........they already know how to fish. Remember that Bible piece, all you church-going so-called christians? Or are you waiting for your daily supply of fish or food stamps to supply you altogether or assist you - err, subsidize - your health and welfare needs. Aw man, did I just throw down the gauntlet? Whatever. (I can't say welfare, can I? My bad. Uh-oh.....somebody's making that call!) He gone!

Che_2005 Wednesday - 20 / 10 / 2010 Reply

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGlxpYKAJYY I found this today

Efp02 Friday - 22 / 10 / 2010 Reply

Very funny and yet true. Currently divorced after 12+ years with the same type of lady. Never realized how much stress/unhappiness this lady took me through until after the break up. She did not realize her faults until it was too late....and then wanted back in. I hate it for the next man! Look out brothers and run fast if you ever encounter this type of lady......otherwise, you can expect many years of unhappiness.

Skool Saturday - 23 / 10 / 2010 Reply

i asked one woman... what all of the things on your list what do you bring to table, her anwser was short and sweet... "i'm a good person and i'm not afraid of work." and when i asked of the man..." i want him to be a good person. have a job. and he has to bring his check book ! another woman told me" that man pays for every thing"... shes 46 never been married. i've met a lot of ladies with long list of things they want in a man, but when you ask them what they have to offer... saddly to say, that list is verrrrrrrry SHORT !