How to Save Your Marriage During an Affair -DivorceBusting.com

I feel like that is torture to allow the affair to continue. How is the wife to make peace? I agree people can make it through an affair and that you can not always give the ultimatum but to live in the same home and continue on like there is nothing wrong with what they are doing. I would not be that person.

“you need to focus on your own life and not pressure your spouse to give up that affair”

OOOOOOOOOH HEEEEEEECK NAAAAAAAAAWWWW!!!

sorry, but this woman is TRIPPIN!

I.

Don’t.

Share.

Isn’t this why there is a significant larger number of married black women who have contracted HIV from their spouses. I’m just sayin

If when confronted with it, the spouse isn’t regretful, apologetic and willing to cut it off and work at whatever needs to be addressed that’s drawing them to that other person, just leave.

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder…”, prob more responsible, thoughtful and considerate of their actions, too. But if you just nag but let them keep doing what they’re doing, it’s called enabling. Cut them off. Period. “No!” People need to practice saying that more often. So what, you’ll be heartbroken and lonely for a little while. Much more to life than sticking around with a person who doesn’t want you. Let them go. If that’s what they truly want, let them have it. Trust, you’re much better off than they are and they will eventually reap what they sow. You, however, don’t want to be caught up in that mess so I say lift your head up, take a deep breath, make all the necessary precautions and move on with your life. Most times, it really ain’t that hard. Again, that’s if the other half isn’t willing to seek counseling, atone for their mistakes, etc. I think a lot of us put ourselves through stuff we really don’t need to just so we can believe that we have someone when in reality, that’s not the case. Basically, we are fooling ourselves. At that point, the need for personal safety, some common sense and Godly integrity should kick in. Just walk… or kick them out. Just my two cents. I’ve seen ppl’s lives destroyed for holding on to something that unfortunately just wasn’t going to work. I admire the fight in them but if the other side isn’t fighting for it also, you gotta let them go. Otherwise you lose years of YOUR LIFE in the process… and they win. Though winning isn’t everything, I would think that carrying yourself with dignity, moving on and proving how much better you are without them will prove how much they LOST by cheating. Sure mistakes do happen but if that’s what they want, I’m like let ‘em have it. Life is too short.