Back From The Brink: Divorce “Rehearsal” Saves Crumbling Marriage?

From Real Simple.com/CNN:

When Akilah and Kris became friends in the 10th grade, she was the extroverted captain of the cheerleading squad and the student-government vice president. He was a precocious student (he had skipped a grade) and a serious artist who preferred drawing to, well, people. Still, they clicked.

“I liked that Kris was really laid-back,” says Akilah, 33, “and he appreciated my big personality.”

She and Kris, 32, lost touch after graduation but reconnected through an old pal four years later. Their friendship picked up where it had left off and slowly evolved into something more. “After one phone call, in which we joked about the typical day of a married couple, I knew he would be my husband,” Akilah recalls.

Problems started shortly after their 2002 marriage. They bickered over everything, from Kris’s habit of leaving his shoes in the front hallway to how often the home office should be cleaned. (The couple jointly own their own businesses.) A slight difference of opinion would leave them fuming for days. “We’d high-five each other if we could go three days without a fight,” Akilah admits.

How did this couple fix their troubled marriage to stay on their “happily ever after” path? Click here for the full story.


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Tara Pringle Jefferson is managing editor of BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com. She’s also the author of Make It Happen: The Young Mommy Guide To Creating The Career You Crave. Follow her on Twitter or check out her blog for her insights on what it means to be a mom, wife, student, writer, and about three other labels she’s too tired to remember.



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  1. Latoya Friday - 04 / 03 / 2011 Reply
    I'm so happy that they were able to work things out. I feel that people are often quick to get a divorce instead instead of trying to make the relationship work. It's not always easy but if your spouse is the one that God gave you to be your life partner, then the rewards are worth it in the end.
  2. Ruby Griffin Friday - 04 / 03 / 2011 Reply
    From high school,to when y'all reconnected,down the journey of life, y'all grew up...That y'all have develop a new beginning,a lifestyle of living single....That when y'all became to be one...y'all felt like your space ,or time has been invaded.In life the choices you make will determine,What you make of your life.When y'all first met in high school...y'all knew"From the beginning"that y'all was soul-mate...that count for something,so,if it's love,it worst fighting for...Now,Let clean up the communication gap,I see love here,and also bonding ..but,as i continue to read,I don't see patience,and understanding...I'm accusing,There is a lot of screaming in y'all marriage,that noone is listening or even focus on each other conversation...so before speaking(think)before he or she make a decision(discuss it first)Because in a marriage,you constant learning...The most important issue in y'all marriage,is that y'all have forgot"In the beginning".you was friend...
  3. Reggie Williams Friday - 04 / 03 / 2011 Reply
    So often I hear couples champion that someone changed in the marriage. I always challenge that. She was an "Extroverted captain of cheerleadering" in marriage as she was in 10th grade, and he a somewhat introverted artist in school, was introverted in how he chose to deal with situations in their marriagae. Whom they married became an issue b/c the failed to pay attention to whom they married, but thanks be to God they matured and learned how to be married within the scope of who they are. www.ruleyourwife316.com