Comments on: How Many Weddings Have You Been To Lately? http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/ Promoting Positive Images of Marriage and Parenting Since 2007 Thu, 23 May 2013 00:43:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Deanna Fry http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40904 Deanna Fry Thu, 02 Jun 2011 03:36:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40904 I've gone to weddings, for my Caucasian friends, but none lately for my African American friends. I am in the category of 30+ and career driven. I've enjoyed the single live and just put marriage and family on the back burner.  And as a matter of fact, most of my inner circle has done the same.  I hate to admit it, but I fit the stereotype of the educated, unmarried Black woman. I’ve gone to weddings, for my Caucasian friends, but none lately for my African American friends. I am in the category of 30+ and career driven. I’ve enjoyed the single live and just put marriage and family on the back burner.  And as a matter of fact, most of my inner circle has done the same.  I hate to admit it, but I fit the stereotype of the educated, unmarried Black woman.

]]> By: Tara Pringle Jefferson http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40902 Tara Pringle Jefferson Thu, 02 Jun 2011 02:43:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40902 I agree. That's what I'm seeing in my circles, too.   I agree. That’s what I’m seeing in my circles, too.  

]]> By: Lynne Childress http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40826 Lynne Childress Wed, 01 Jun 2011 12:07:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40826 I had 2 good friends get married this year, both in the late 30s-early 40s range, and I know of someone in their mid-20's getting married this summer. Last year I was in 3 weddings, including my own, and we were all in 39. It seems to be running the gamut. I had 2 good friends get married this year, both in the late 30s-early 40s range, and I know of someone in their mid-20′s getting married this summer. Last year I was in 3 weddings, including my own, and we were all in 39. It seems to be running the gamut.

]]> By: Lisa http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40622 Lisa Tue, 31 May 2011 14:19:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40622 I see a pattern with weddings/marriages, especially in the black community. People either get married before 25 or after 35. Obviously there are exceptions, but in terms of seeing groups of people get married, there seems to be a 10-year drought period. The people who get married early are the high school or college sweethearts and the couples that met in church when they were in their teens and 20s. If they don't get engaged by age 25 though, there seems to be this period in which singles decide to be "free" and enjoy the fruits of their labor (education, new job) by saying they "aren't looking for anything serious right now." Suddenly, around 35, men start feeling like it's time to settle down and not be the old playa in the club... so the guys that didn't make it to the altar early want to start nesting and planning for kids (or more kids) like, yesterday. Then the marriage wave starts again... or the women who put off serious dating/relationship plans get more focused on finding someone because they want kids/are tired of being alone/etc. I got married seven months ago at age 32... but I married a guy in his late 30s, so I guess we fit in that category. I have a lot of single friends in their early 30s who do want to marry, but they aren't even in relationships... so if they meet someone tomorrow and end up marrying him, they'll probably be 35 or more when they tie the knot. I would like to see more people in their late 20s getting married. I really think that's a good age to do so. I see a pattern with weddings/marriages, especially in the black community.

People either get married before 25 or after 35. Obviously there are exceptions, but in terms of seeing groups of people get married, there seems to be a 10-year drought period.

The people who get married early are the high school or college sweethearts and the couples that met in church when they were in their teens and 20s. If they don’t get engaged by age 25 though, there seems to be this period in which singles decide to be “free” and enjoy the fruits of their labor (education, new job) by saying they “aren’t looking for anything serious right now.”

Suddenly, around 35, men start feeling like it’s time to settle down and not be the old playa in the club… so the guys that didn’t make it to the altar early want to start nesting and planning for kids (or more kids) like, yesterday. Then the marriage wave starts again… or the women who put off serious dating/relationship plans get more focused on finding someone because they want kids/are tired of being alone/etc.

I got married seven months ago at age 32… but I married a guy in his late 30s, so I guess we fit in that category. I have a lot of single friends in their early 30s who do want to marry, but they aren’t even in relationships… so if they meet someone tomorrow and end up marrying him, they’ll probably be 35 or more when they tie the knot.

I would like to see more people in their late 20s getting married. I really think that’s a good age to do so.

]]> By: Lisa http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40623 Lisa Tue, 31 May 2011 14:19:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40623 I see a pattern with weddings/marriages, especially in the black community. People either get married before 25 or after 35. Obviously there are exceptions, but in terms of seeing groups of people get married, there seems to be a 10-year drought period. The people who get married early are the high school or college sweethearts and the couples that met in church when they were in their teens and 20s. If they don't get engaged by age 25 though, there seems to be this period in which singles decide to be "free" and enjoy the fruits of their labor (education, new job) by saying they "aren't looking for anything serious right now." Suddenly, around 35, men start feeling like it's time to settle down and not be the old playa in the club... so the guys that didn't make it to the altar early want to start nesting and planning for kids (or more kids) like, yesterday. Then the marriage wave starts again... or the women who put off serious dating/relationship plans get more focused on finding someone because they want kids/are tired of being alone/etc. I got married seven months ago at age 32... but I married a guy in his late 30s, so I guess we fit in that category. I have a lot of single friends in their early 30s who do want to marry, but they aren't even in relationships... so if they meet someone tomorrow and end up marrying him, they'll probably be 35 or more when they tie the knot. I would like to see more people in their late 20s getting married. I really think that's a good age to do so. I see a pattern with weddings/marriages, especially in the black community.

People either get married before 25 or after 35. Obviously there are exceptions, but in terms of seeing groups of people get married, there seems to be a 10-year drought period.

The people who get married early are the high school or college sweethearts and the couples that met in church when they were in their teens and 20s. If they don’t get engaged by age 25 though, there seems to be this period in which singles decide to be “free” and enjoy the fruits of their labor (education, new job) by saying they “aren’t looking for anything serious right now.”

Suddenly, around 35, men start feeling like it’s time to settle down and not be the old playa in the club… so the guys that didn’t make it to the altar early want to start nesting and planning for kids (or more kids) like, yesterday. Then the marriage wave starts again… or the women who put off serious dating/relationship plans get more focused on finding someone because they want kids/are tired of being alone/etc.

I got married seven months ago at age 32… but I married a guy in his late 30s, so I guess we fit in that category. I have a lot of single friends in their early 30s who do want to marry, but they aren’t even in relationships… so if they meet someone tomorrow and end up marrying him, they’ll probably be 35 or more when they tie the knot.

I would like to see more people in their late 20s getting married. I really think that’s a good age to do so.

]]> By: MrsW http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40615 MrsW Tue, 31 May 2011 02:54:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40615 Well - the question is a challenge, because you may know about a lot of weddings, but due to the economy, you may only get invited to one or two.   For last year, two weddings, for this year, I haven't been to any - but I know about at least 4 or 5 ...again, I may not be attending all 4 or 5, but those weddings will be happening this year.   Well – the question is a challenge, because you may know about a lot of weddings, but due to the economy, you may only get invited to one or two.   For last year, two weddings, for this year, I haven’t been to any – but I know about at least 4 or 5 …again, I may not be attending all 4 or 5, but those weddings will be happening this year.
 

]]> By: DivaNae http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40614 DivaNae Tue, 31 May 2011 02:13:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40614 Well considering I am in   the 30 plus crowd, I have found my circle of friends to be opposite. While I am in the minority single and without children, most of friends are in fact married and coming upon 4-7 years of marriage with 2.5 kids. I just send well wishes to everyone and the system that work for you, being single and being able to get up and go OR being married and loving the life with a spouse and children. Well considering I am in   the 30 plus crowd, I have found my circle of friends to be opposite. While I am in the minority single and without children, most of friends are in fact married and coming upon 4-7 years of marriage with 2.5 kids.
I just send well wishes to everyone and the system that work for you, being single and being able to get up and go OR being married and loving the life with a spouse and children.

]]> By: Tara Pringle Jefferson http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40612 Tara Pringle Jefferson Mon, 30 May 2011 21:24:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40612 Congratulations on your "recent" nupitals. :)   Congratulations on your “recent” nupitals. :)  

]]> By: Tara Pringle Jefferson http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40613 Tara Pringle Jefferson Mon, 30 May 2011 21:24:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40613 Congratulations on your "recent" nupitals. :)   Congratulations on your “recent” nupitals. :)  

]]> By: MsMax23 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2011/05/how-many-weddings-have-you-been-to-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-40611 MsMax23 Mon, 30 May 2011 20:22:00 +0000 http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/?p=13928#comment-40611 I'm experiencing a wedding spike after a drought of 10 years or so and I love it. Many are younger couples within the church who have chosen not to shack up or sleep together which these days seems to be the norm inside and outside the church.   I just married 2 years ago at 41, part of it was choice and the the other was opportunity.   There weren't many quality suitors until I met my husband. At that point I had concluded I wasn't going to get married and was finally ok with it. My job, my commitment to Christ, shopping, travelling and my family would be enough. But my husband found me like the Scriptures say and the rest is history. I’m experiencing a wedding spike after a drought of 10 years or so and I love it. Many are younger couples within the church who have chosen not to shack up or sleep together which these days seems to be the norm inside and outside the church.   I just married 2 years ago at 41, part of it was choice and the the other was opportunity.   There weren’t many quality suitors until I met my husband. At that point I had concluded I wasn’t going to get married and was finally ok with it. My job, my commitment to Christ, shopping, travelling and my family would be enough. But my husband found me like the Scriptures say and the rest is history.

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