VIDEO: Prioritizing Marriage Over Your Job

Relationships

by BMWK Staff | on October 11th, 2011 | 3 comments

With the recession lingering on and on, it is certainly taking a toll on our relationships. Job not looking so secure? Better log more hours at the office, or bring work home to make sure you don’t fall behind. But what happens when that starts happening more often than not? How do you turn the focus back on the marriage? Check out this video from the Today show to help you get there:

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Optimistic Mom Tuesday - 11 / 10 / 2011 Reply

I really like in the video clip that they mention the partner that isn't working should have an interesting life. I think this is an important point, it might be a hobby, exercise regimen, etc. but something that gives the person purpose. Having a husband that has always worked long hours, I am no stranger to eating dinner alone with our son. I would encourage others that are new to this type of situation due to things like the recession, to make the most of the time with the spouse. A few minutes can go a long way if the time is meaningful. Arguing about it won't help and you loose the precious moments.
bodysculpter Tuesday - 11 / 10 / 2011 Reply

The video gave some great ideas to put in place. Its never fun when you are the one who is the one waiting, but because of how things are it just can't be helped, at times. however, you don't have to just accept things, speak up and tell your partner how you feel and start a conversation, not an argument. One way to increase the amount of time spent together is to schedule gym time or couples workouts together. My husband and I love to workout together, because we really make a date of it. after the workout, we usually go and eat at a good place and are able to talk and share.
Pknight41 Wednesday - 12 / 10 / 2011 Reply

Our family was in this situation prior to the start of the recession. We deal with it by capitalizing on the time we have together. The trick is to severely limit t.v./cell phones and any other technology which interrupts our "face to face" time. Work isn't the only culprit in stealing time from marriages. In-laws, neighbors, and friends can be a problem if proper boundaries aren't put in place to protect the marriage. We decline quite a few activities that would cause us to be busy and engaged with others in a social situation, rather than with one another. When the marriage is viewed as the nucleus, with everything else drawing energy from it, it can assist us in protecting the core of the black community: the black marriage.