Marriage is a wonderful, wonderful experience and journey if you choose the right person and have the right mindset. As your source for the best marriage information on the web we thought that we’d provide you with a list of 5 reasons why and 3 reasons why not to get married. Yes, you read that correctly so let’s get right into it. Once you’re done let us know if you agree and what we left off of the list.
5 Reasons To Get Married:
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FEELS SO GOOD!
Marriage provides you with the opportunity to give and receive unconditional love. It also lets you practice the act of becoming unselfish which is the exact opposite of what society tells us we should do. A wonderful blueprint for marriage is one where each spouse puts the other first. When you have a marriage where one spouse puts the needs of him\herself before the needs of their spouse major problems will arise.
HAVING A SUPPORT SYSTEM CAN PROPEL YOU TO NEW LEVELS
The support of a loving spouse is an amazing feeling. When I give public speeches I often tell the story of how I was going to hire someone to do our first film Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage. Ronnie instead encouraged me to do it on my own. She built me up to believe that I could successfully make a film with no previous experience whatsoever. Now here we are 3 films later preparing for out next project which will be released in the spring of next year. That motivation has resulted in a totally new path not just for me but for our family as well.
YOUR KIDS NEED BOTH OF YOU THERE
So many times I’ve heard someone who was single talk about their fear of marrying the wrong person but they won’t hold that same fear about having a child with the wrong person. Even though we don’t advocate it, you can get out of a marriage but you can not get out of being a parent. And even if they don’t tell you, your kids wish both of you were there and together. Provide them with the best opportunity for success and that is by having their biological mother and father in the same home and in a healthy and productive marriage. This may not be possible for everyone but if you’re single and haven’t had kids yet it is possible for you!
OUR COMMUNITY NEEDS YOU
You can trace the decline of communities across this country with the decline of the family unit. High divorce rates and high out of wedlock birth rates have totally changed the face of our community. There are children now who don’t know what healthy marriages look like because they don’t know anyone who’s happily married. When these children don’t see successful marriages in front of them they are forced to lean on the negative depictions offered by the media. These images that are laced with age-old stereotypes wouldn’t lead anyone to choose marriage so they instead leave our children with thoughts of no hope when it comes to having great relationships because they think this is just, “how it is.”
MARRIAGE IS THE BEST INVESTMENT THAT YOU CAN MAKE
Marriage is an amazing investment that will provide exponential returns for the remainder of your life if tended to properly. The great part about this is that those returns will be in different areas. You’ll see returns in areas including financial, sexual, health, happiness and more. We really need couples who are experiencing the wealth return of marriage in these areas to share their stories more often so that we can combat the bad that we hear with the good that we often don’t.
3 Reasons Not To Get Married:
YOU THINK MARRIAGE WILL FILL A VOID IN YOUR LIFE
We’ve said it many times on this site that marriage will not complete you. You need to enter into your marriage as a complete person. Marriage was not designed to make you happy so you need to be the best you that you can be before you jump the broom. If you’re not happy with yourself before marriage you’ll take those feelings into your union and they will arise again.
BECAUSE BEING SINGLE IS HARD
I’ve often heard conversations about how hard it is to be single or how difficult dating is but marriage is not necessarily a walk in the park either. It requires work, commitment and a willingness to change that many people are not willing to make. Running into a marriage because you’re running away from being single is not the answer to any of your problems.
YOU’VE ALWAYS DREAMED OF HAVING AN AMAZING WEDDING
You’d be surprised at how many people get married to have a wedding. The problem is that after the wedding you have the rest of your life to worry about. Use that same energy, preparation and passion that you use for your wedding to plan for your marriage. Have the tough conversations about intimacy, finances, parenting, etc”... prior to getting married so you know what to expect from your spouse before you make the leap!
BMWK family do you agree with the list. Have you experienced any of these reasons? What did we leave off?
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