#MarriageChat Recap: How To Stay United During the Holidays
After a brief hiatus during the holidays, our weekly Twitter party, #marriagechat, was back in full swing. We were happy to see our regulars, and glad to welcome in first timers. This week’s topic was How to Stay United During the Holidays. We’re less than 3 weeks away from Christmas, and we wanted to get your perspective on what goes down with your family during the most wonderful time of the year. Here’s what we got:
Q1: Do the holidays cause any extra stress on your marriage? If so why? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
Q1: People not getting along causes me stress (extended family) during the holidays #marriagechat
@RonnieTyler
RonnieTyler
@blackandmarried A1 – Yes, bc you have to work to pull everyone together or deal with inlaws and all their issues and #marriagechat
@Sophisticates_4
Meka
Q1: We spend time w/ my fan on xmas eve and his fan on xmas. My fan opens gifts on xmas eve so its pretty simple #marriagechat
@iKristen
Kristen
Q2: Is extended family an issue around this time? How do you deal with it? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
A2. I don’t have a tight knit family so if we spend family time its with his. Simple. #marriagechat
@glossymimi
Mimi
@blackandmarried It’s stressful when the Inlaws invite others to our house. Last time Inlaws came by with a pack of folks. #marriagechat
@CedarHillMom
Cedar Hill
Q2: some family tends to take it personally if you cant spend the time how THEY want you to, so… it can be annoying #marriagechat
@beingmrsjones
Christina
Q3: Going into your marriage did u and ur spouse approach holidays differently? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
Q3 Our first married Xmas hubby shocked my shorts when he wanted to purchase a live tree. #marriagechat
@sci_of_marriage
Science of Marriage
A3) Yes we used to try to please everyone. Now we focus on our marriage & our kids when it comes to the holidays #MarriageChat
@TheSistahChick
The SistahChick
A3: my hubs thought holidays = drama. Being with my family changed his tune. #marriagechat
@Muneerah
Muneerah
Q4: How do you handle holiday spending? Are u & ur spouse on the same page on this topic? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
@RonnieTyler A4:Now we are…after 12 years LOL! Apparently men take awhile to pick things up…#marriagechat
@SuperUltraJulie
Julie C.
A4: Gifts for each other come out of personal $$. And I focus on buying what he’ll like, not spending the same amt he does. #marriagechat
@uptownbrowngirl
Uptown BrownGirl
Q5: What holiday traditions have you carried into your marriage from your childhood? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
A5: We have our own “tree lighting ceremony”..custom playlist, santa hats, wine, and good times! #marriagechat
@ManWifeDog
Charli Penn
@blackandmarried Putting those gold coin chocolates in the stockings. My mom’s tradition. #marriagechat
@KristenTheMom
Kristen L. Reese
Q5: I’d love to add new Christmas traditions! Any unique suggestions? #marriagechat
@KarissaMallory
Karissa Mallory
Q6: What new traditions have you started with your own family? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
@blackandmarried Q6. Have a conversation EARLY about what the plans are for the holidays. Make sure you’re on the same page. #marriagechat
@munaluchiBride
Munaluchi Bridal Mag
Q6: We are planning some tropical trips. We want to break out of the norm. Planning to include “Favorite” family members! #marriagechat
@NewRenaissance
Antoinette Robinson
this year hubster and I are only exchanging cards- but I told him I want a VERY long hand-written one-M #marriagechat
@luvprojmarriage
loveprojectmarriage
Q7: Teacher got in trouble 4 telling kids there was no Santa http://t.co/GeshT176? Wld u hav been upset if ur child was there? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
A7: We don’t really do Santa, so… no. LOL. But I understand why they were mad. #marriagechat
@newmamaswagger
Denise A.
A7, yes, I would want to be the one to explain it first. Parents always tell kids eventually #marriagechat
@lifenlovecoach
Tiya Sumter
Q8: What tips would you give a newlywed approaching the holidays with a spouse for the first time? #marriagechat
@MarriageChat
Marriage Chat
A8) to be open & receptive to each other during the holidays, to put their marriage first & not to try to please everyone. #MarriageChat
@TheSistahChick
The SistahChick
A8 As much as you want to please the families enjoy your time with each other.Exchange gifts at home then join the fam #marriagechat
@victorie82
Sherrie W.
A8: Enjoy your time together. Spend the first one alone and embracing the marriage! #marriagechat
@NewRenaissance
Antoinette Robinson
Remember to take time for just the two of you..this year we are having an adult Christmas on 12/26 no kids nor outside family #marriagechat
@datingmyspouse
Still DatingMySpouse
From hubby and me: communicate about a budget, love harder, and enjoy quality time with who you’re surrounded by for holiday. #marriagechat
@kryssiekat
Krystle S. Talley
This is now ur fam. Be open to how they celebrate and figure out how to blend w/urs to create your own traditions. #marriagechat
@gChambers23
G Chambers
A8: You are “family” now. Start your own traditions and don’t let other drama ruin your special time. #marriagechat
@ManWifeDog
Charli Penn
Have answers to these questions? Leave them in the comments below! Don’t forget to join us for #marriagechat via TweetChat or TweetGrid Wednesday evenings, 9pm EST.
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