The Best Marriage Quote of All Time!

Marriage

by Ronnie Tyler | on January 19th, 2012 | 18 comments

I hear a lot of things being said about marriage. Some of it is good..but most of it is bad (especially in the media.) So when I hear or read something good or insightful that resonates with me, I write it down, bookmark it, or record it.

One of my favorite marriage quotes comes from the book “Marriage Matters” by Tony Evans.

“Marriage is a covenant. It is a covenantal union designed to strengthen the capability of each partner to carry out the plan of God in their lives. Marriage Matters.”

I truly believe that marriage is more than just a contract with my spouse. It is a spiritually binding agreement that I made with my spouse and God. And if I want to have a successful marriage, then I need to keep God at the center. I love this quote because to me it reveals the power of marriage. We all are here on this earth for a reason…we all have a purpose and plan. And your spouse can be your biggest support system for carrying out God’s plan for your life. This is definitely true in my marriage and in so many others that I have seen over the years.

BMWK Family – please share your favorite marriage quote or saying and tell us what it means to you.

About the author

Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are the creators of the award-winning blog BlackandMarriedWithKids.com . They also are behind the Amazon.com bestselling DVDs Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me and their latest documentary Men Ain’t Boys that explores manhood in the African American community. The Tylers are also the proud parents of four children.

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Rogerio Badaró Pitzer Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

Great article, Ronnie! As well as the whole project! Wish u the best and success! Greetings from Brazil... Rogerio Pitzer (Coca's husband)
- Ronnie_BMWK Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
  
  Thanks for checking our site and for leaving a comment! Coca is such a sweetie pie!!!
Carla Singleton Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

Before my husband passed, God was the center of out lives. I feel so blessed to have share such a spiritual blessing with him.
- Ronnie_BMWK Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
  
  Thanks for sharing your comment. It reminds us all to not take our spouses for granted and to know that having a loving spouse and ahealthy marriage is truly a blessing.
Keesha Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

My ABSOLUTE FAVORITE passage comes from Power Prayers for Your Marriage...it's a passage about the importance of communication and it goes like this.."Just as we must learn about God through the pages of the Bible, you and your spouse need to open yourselves up to each other. You MUST EACH take time to share your brightest hopes & innermost fears, dreams and disappointments, worries and emotions...once this happens your lives can flow together in joyous union..." (I put all caps where I felt they were needed..lol) Whew, it just makes me want to cry to think of the power a marriage that follows this model would have. EVERYTHING, good or bad, is covered here. To openly be able to share and understand your spouse on this level...I'm speechless. Pray for my husband and I. I'm stuck on desperately needing to follow this model of communication. He, however, communicates more on a surface level, and I need to go much deeper. I have so much to say, about all the areas listed above, and I say them. I need him to reciprocate, I need to know what's going on in HIS head & heart. We've been married 16 years and it's time out for games. I know it's possible, but I'm praying for patience....
- Ronnie_BMWK Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
  
  Keesha - thanks for sharing that quote. And we'll be praying for your marriage. Have you and your husband considered getting a marriage coach or going to a marriage education class? I am actually reading a book called Desperate Marriages; Moving Toward Hope and Healing in Your Relationship by Gary Chapman...it has a chapter in it about dealing with an uncommunicative spouse. Check it out.
  - Keesha Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
    
    Thanks Ronnie...I will check it out. Marriage coach/ education classes?? We've talked about it, but then we'll have a deep conversation, I'll feel we're on the right track, it'll be great for about a week, then he'll get quiet on me again. It's frustrating too because he'll pray with me, and say he's trying. I just don't think it should be that hard just to open up!! After all these years??..I'll definitely get that book because I need some understanding and God hasn't got back to me on this one yet..lol...
Lorenzo Bradley Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

Love the comment. Going on wall right now.
Zstankard Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

I saw a beautiful picture today of Correta Scott King and the late Dr. King sharing a kiss. It was a beautiful expression of black love. Kinda disappointed with Essence and Ebony magazine for choosing D-Wade/Gabriel Union, Evelyn Lozado/Chad Ochocinco as our representation for black love as we approach February. Can't we do better than that? I am not a writer. But I would like to ask for someone to blog about the negative side of spotlighting all of these here today, gone tomorrow relationships (especially of black people) in the media. Can we get a break from reputable sources (ie. Essence, Ebony etc...) in documenting relationships that don't hold a commitment to last a lifetime. Just saying!
- Briana Myricks Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
  
  I agree, and I'd love to discuss that. It's hard to say these people are our relationship role models and see 1) they're not married yet, and 2) sometimes they never make it down the aisle.
- Ronnie_BMWK Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply
  
  Zstankard - I totally agree with your comments...and please stay tuned on this site...we are about to release our 4th marriage film, Still Standing. It will feature couples that are going to give you candid and transparent conversation about what it takes to overcome adversities and still remain standing and happy. We even have some celebrity couples that have awesome testimonies on why their marriages are still standing!!!! We are filming now and these couples are inspiring me!!!
Peejay Thursday - 19 / 01 / 2012 Reply

We may not be perfect but we are perfect for each other
Ginger-GirlsJustWannaHaveFunds Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

I love this quote: "The family is not one of several alternative lifestyles. It is not an arena in which rights are negotiated; it is not an old-fashioned barrier to a promiscuous sex life; it is not a set of cost-benefit calculations. It is a commitment for which there is no feasible substitute.... There is no way to prepare for this commitment other than to make it.... Married life is shaped by the fact that the couple has made a solemn vow before family and friends that this is for keeps...."
Ginger-GirlsJustWannaHaveFunds Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

My favorite: " "The family is not one of several alternative lifestyles. It is not an arena in which rights are negotiated; it is not an old-fashioned barrier to a promiscuous sex life; it is not a set of cost-benefit calculations. It is a commitment for which there is no feasible substitute.... There is no way to prepare for this commitment other than to make it.... Married life is shaped by the fact that the couple has made a solemn vow before family and friends that this is for keeps...."
Chloe Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

I couldn't agree more with the statement!! God HAS to be the center for a successful marriage and continued growth. Marriage takes a lot of faith and trust. When you foster a close relationship with the Lord you are capable of trusting your and having peace that surpasses understanding. You are able to grow and be strengthened through adversity, and you and your spouse with appreciate each other the more because of it.
Valeria Vincent Nolley Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

The daughter of a friend got married last weeked, and as a part of the wedding, the maid of honor read the following excerpt from the Velveteen Rabbit. I have fallen in love with this..... “What is REAL?" asked the Velveteen Rabbit one day... "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?""Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When [someone] loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.""Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit."Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.""Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?""It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. "Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand... once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.” ? Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit or How Toys Become Real
Jrstar358 Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

Our favorite quote is "Jesus is the Center of Our Joy!" We were just recently married and our Pastor told us to keep Jesus in the center of all that we do!
Linda Johnson Friday - 20 / 01 / 2012 Reply

Appreciation, focus, honor, empathy, waiting and thinking before speaking when angry, being considerate when it's difficult to understand the other's moment, mistakes, or I believe as a single woman, that marriage is a 360 circle. God should be completely around, and inside that circle.