by Sheree Adams
We all have that “Crazy” girlfriend that cracks her husband’s voice mail passcode, figures out his email password, and picks up his cell to read his text messages every time he’s in the shower. But, yet, he loves her. Whether he’s cheating or not. “Crazy” Cathy has always had a man. She had several suitors and married the pick of the litter. What is it? Is he afraid that she’ll go postal, so he sticks around? Then there’s Nonchalant [Natalie]. She’s nonchalant, beautiful, secure in her skin and her marriage and she, too, has a very loving husband. Is her confidence so radiant and attractive that its magnetizing? Does she make him feel like it’s an honor for him to even be with her? And what about Low-down [Lisa]? She is the ungrateful (or unfaithful) friend with the a GOOD husband that she doesn’t deserve, and pretty much treats him like dirt. She bosses him, she borderline bullies him, and no matter what, he’s right there.
While none of these scenarios are healthy without balance. They are frighteningly familiar to us all. But, are any of these women safeguarded against infidelity? The answer is no. And neither is this ring I found on the internet: The anti-cheating ring. I know. It looks like a joke, but it comes with a hefty $550 price tag.
OK, I confess. I am always wondering if its true what they say? “If you don’t do [it] for your husband-then another woman will?” In today’s culture of overwhelming amounts of infidelity and extramarital affairs, one can’t help but wonder. I feel secure in my marriage, but I was raised not to put anything past anyone. My husband, is not into all of the melodrama of living the “what-if” life. His security is actually quite sexy.
The question should really be “Why am I trying to keep my husband from cheating?” and even more ” Why aren’t the men trained/taught NOT TO CHEAT?” An age-old question, that I’m sure will always spark debate. For starters, I think it would be great for the fathers to commit to teaching their sons the importance of not only being a great father and good husband, but a FAITHFUL ONE. Too often I’ve heard that men actually learned to cheat from their fathers. Yes, their fathers! They were taught that as long as you take care of home and provide for your family that it’s OK to have a “side piece”.
I’ve spoken with several people about my approach of having a watchful eye and of course, none of us can agree. The questions remains: Do you go into marriage, despite your commitment to one another with your third eye open? Or do you say that you have no reason NOT to trust, so why not trust your mate whole-heartedly?
I guess it can be based on your past relationship experiences and the examples of love you had growing up, but will your being watchful and conscious of knowing that your man may cheat be beneficial for you or the quality of your marriage, not to mention your sanity? And the burning question of all: Will you be buying the anti-cheating ring for your hubby? Be sure to let me know!
DISCLAIMER: I know that men are not the only ones capable of infidelity. For the sake of this blog post, I am referring to the men. I spread love, so we will discuss the women in a later post.
Sheree is a Christian, wife, WAHM of three, nurse, blogger and speaker, who is forever drawn to all things health-related. You can find her blogging about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY! Learn more about Sheree on Facebook her Website and via Twitter.