I’m an educated, independent woman with earning potential of my own. As I wrote in a previous post, my father raised me to take care of my business and to be a strong woman. But, I also stated that just because I am a strong woman doesn’t mean I don’t need a man. Next to God, I need my husband.
Part 1 of what I am calling the “New Independent Woman Series” challenged us strong-willed women to acknowledge that we need the men in our lives. Part 2 goes even further and proclaims that it’s perfectly okay to stand behind your man. Here’s what I mean.
In my marriage, sometimes I stand beside my husband, shoulder to shoulder facing the world together. Sometimes I stand in front of my husband, particularly when he is tired or just needs a break. And then there are other times when I stand behind him.
It doesn’t make me weak.
It doesn’t mean I am unequal.
It doesn’t mean I’m silenced.
It doesn’t mean my husband makes all the decisions.
Where I stand has nothing to do with my worth or with my level of independence. Instead, it has everything to do with my humility and my strength as a woman. When I stand behind my man, I have the privilege of having his back. I have the responsibility to guard, to protect, and to defend my husband, my marriage, and my family from sneak attacks from behind. As the leader in our relationship, my husband watches the front line. Which means he can’t see what’s behind him.
What type of wife would I be if I refused to stand behind him, thereby leaving our marriage and family vulnerable to a from-the-back attack?
Hear me ladies: Enemies to your marriage will sneak up on you from behind. And, if you are out of position because you are arguing about who should be in the front, then you’re putting your family at risk.
It takes a strong woman to guard the back.
It takes a courageous woman to stand back to back with her husband, ready to address the issues facing her.
It takes a “new independent woman” to understand that her degree, her bank account, and her goals should be used to help hold down her family, not to inflate her ego.
When I stand behind my husband, proudly and confidently, I assure him that I have his back. Who else should be in that position if not his wife?
BMWK family, where do you “stand” in your marriage?