Kristine Casey, a 61 year old mother to three daughters that was 10 years post menopause, gave birth to her own grandson by being her daughter’s surrogate mother, in February 2011.
Recently on Good Morning America, Casey’s daughter, Sara Connell, described how she struggled with infertility that caused her to lose twins during the third trimester of her first pregnancy and to have a miscarriage with her second pregnancy, before deciding to have her mother carry her child, Finnean. Although there were safety concerns due to her mother’s age, Casey felt “it was a journey we needed to take.”
“It was so amazing to feel that little heart beat and the little movements inside of me,” Casey said. “To feel, the confidence, for some reason, I felt confident I could do this and we could have this wonderful grandson.”
In a similar instance, senior moderator and PR representative of SurrogateMothersOnline.com, Kymberli Barney, describes her experience being a surrogate mother in a recent HLN post. She says she chose to do so because of her own history of infertility after being diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS). With treatment, she was able to conceive twins and two more children. Now having her own family she, like Casey, underwent in vitro fertilization (IVF) to become a surrogate mother. And in 2007, Kimberli delivered another couple’s son. Barney and Casey both likened the experience to babysitting.
“I was overjoyed to have completed my family, but I was still acutely aware of just how difficult our road could have been,” Barney said. ”Had my husband and I needed to pursue this as a family-building option, I could only hope that someone would have wanted to help us in the way I wanted to help others.”
BMWK– Would you consider having a surrogate mother or being one to someone else? Have you or a friend done so before? What challenges and successes were there?