Why You Should Know Which Marriage Season You Are In?

The Fall Season is here, and depending upon where you live you can be caught off-guard by the seasonal change.  I live in Indiana, and the weather can be a little unpredictable.  One week it could be in the high 80s, but you can find yourself in the 40s in the following days.  Or you could wake up to 35 degree weather, and by the afternoon be looking at low 70 degree weather.

If you are new to the area, or just unprepared for this, it can get ugly for you.  Think sick, runny nose, body just all jacked up.  The same can happen in your marriage.

Marriages have seasons too

Marriages go through different seasons as well.  If you go through your marriage unaware of this, your marriage can get difficult and ugly.   You may be caught off-guard by what is happening in your marriage, and marriage life may seem unpredictable, just like the Indiana weather where I live.

I have experienced unpredictability, both in weather and marriage.  Neither are very fun, or very rewarding.  However, if you are aware, and prepared for the seasons of marriage, your marriage can thrive.

Give your marriage a better chance

The Five Love Languages” author, Gary Chapman, has written another book called “The Four Seasons of Marriage.”  The book is built on understanding the seasons and knowing which season your marriage is in, so you are better able to manage your marriage.  I encourage you to look at your marriage, see which season you are in, adjust accordingly, and give your marriage the best opportunity to thrive.

“The strength we gain from realizing the season we are in is the understanding that it is just for a season and not a “forever.” Neither our really good or our really tough seasons last for ever ““ it’s just for a season. So when you are financially blessed, hold a little cash back ““ it is just a season. Conversely, when it is raining in your relationship, hold on””it is just for a season.”  - Edward Lee

BMWK:  See the gallery below for a description of the marriage seasons. Which marriage season are you in?  If you are in one of the more challenging seasons, what steps are you taking to help your marriage move to a better season?

Spring

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This is the season of new things. You may be newlyweds, new parents, new entrepreneurs in a family business. You are excited and filled with hope. There may not be a lot of experience, but excitement and hope abounds.
Photo Credit: Miyukiutada

 


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Jackie Bledsoe, Jr. is a husband, father, writer, blogger, and entrepreneur. He shares his experiences at JackieBledsoe.com, writing about Family Leadership in his quest to GET better and help you GET better in leading your family. Read more articles like this on his blog, ‘Follow’ him on Twitter, and ‘Like’ him on Facebook.


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Comments (7)

  1. Lis Thursday - 11 / 10 / 2012 Reply
    I'd say we are in the stage of spring... pretty much settled and deal pretty with things as they come up. I'm interested in the Four Seasons book though and will definitely be checking that out!
  2. Yvette Friday - 12 / 10 / 2012 Reply
    I need to get the book ASAP. I'm just wondering if a couple can go through all four seasons in a short amount of time...like 1 year.
    • Jackie Bledsoe, Jr. Sunday - 14 / 10 / 2012 Reply
      Yvette, great question. I am sure they can. I don't see any time limits or minimums on the seasons. It is where a marriage is at the time. Thanks for your comment.
      • S.F. Monday - 29 / 10 / 2012 Reply
        I wish there were a time limit on some seasons. We are less than six months married and have spent the majority of our time in fall and winter. Spring and summer last no more than 24hrs.

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