3 Natural Hair Rules You Need to Know for Your Kids

Photo Credit: Franchesca Warren

Four years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I marveled at all of the cute clothes I could buy for her and all of the fun shopping trips we would have. The one thing I did not count on was having to do my daughter’s hair without a relaxer. You see, the year I had my daughter, 2008, was the year I decided to go “natural”. So in between me trying to find products for me, I was trying to find products for her as well. A year after having her, I literally had a ‘break down’ about not being able to keep her hair moisturized.

I was especially upset when I saw that her hair was dry and breaking off. She had no hair on the sides or the back of her hair. In addition, she was complaining that her hair was always itching. When I took her to the pediatrician, they didn’t have an answer and said that it was going to be a ‘trial and error’ experience.  And, one beautician suggested that I straighten her hair. I was officially defeated.

As I set on her floor crying, I felt like the only solution I had was to shave her head and just start over. However, before I took those drastic measures, I took a moment to think about what I could do to get her hair healthy. I had spent hundreds of dollars on products with some of them working.  But, they were too expensive for me to use on a daily basis. I had tried to follow what many of the bloggers were doing on YouTube. But, there was just too much information and I really didn’t see anyone who had hair like my daughter.

So after a lot of thinking (and calling my mom) I decided I was going to the ‘old school’ method to get her hair healthy. Instead of trying the new products on the market, I stuck with 4 main ingredients: shea butter, aloe vera juice, water, oil and grease. With these products, I went from frustrated to happy about her hair in a matter of a month. My friends all thought I was using some new product but were FLOORED when I told them what I had actually done.

So for all of the mommies out there struggling to care for their daughter’s natural hair, try these 3 rules to embrace natural hair for your toddlers ….click the pages below.

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About the author

Franchesca Warren is writer, author, blogger, educator, runner, entrepreneur, mother and overall BossyGirl. She’s currently working on her second book detailing her chronicles of working in two of the roughest urban school districts with a release date of August 2012. You can find her full-time on her blog chronicling her life trying to balance it all and run a marathon by the end of the year. In her spare time she runs her own editing company, The Editing Nerd, and working on the launch of her first magazine. For a daily account of the good, bad and ugly of being a BossyGirl follow her on Twitter!

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   Kurinko Wednesday - 14 / 11 / 2012 Reply

   To point 1, I'd just like to say I have never come across any naturalista on youtube who would tell you not to put oil on your hair. Grease yes in the form of mineral oil and petroleum because it can clog your pores. Youtube videos helped me a lot and gave me lots of pointers in my healthcare journey and my hair that used to be terribly damaged has recovered considerably. You just have to pick and choose what works for you from these videos.
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   McGlendasMane Thursday - 15 / 11 / 2012 Reply

   I'm sorry but i have to see i don't agree with you and the oil /grease comment . I have natural hair and all the you tube Videos i have watched not one of them has ever said don't use Oil or Grease in your hair and i have watched thousands of them and most of them recommend all kinds of natural oils.
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   Beth from Moni Poni Saturday - 17 / 11 / 2012 Reply

   One really important element that so many naturalistas forget is the kind of hair accessories to use! ALL hair accessories are based on PRESSURE and pressure, when not used properly, causes DAMAGE!! Elastics squeeze, rip and break hair. The Moni Poni spiral ponytail holder is the ONLY hair accessory that uses a unique method of holding hair which distributes pressure FROM THE INSIDE of the ponytail (even the smallest group of hair). So, it holds really, really well WITHOUT CAUSING BREAKAGE! I'd love to send you some samples for you to try because that's what we're all about - changing the way we hold our hair to keep our hair healthy and happy! Please contact me at the.moni.poni@gmail.com and I'll be happy to send you samples for your blog.
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   Tiffany Tuesday - 20 / 11 / 2012 Reply

   I would like to know what you did did you mix the Shea and aloe together or aloe and water together in a spray bottle what grease did you use? I liked the article but the lack of detail has me puzzled no disrespect I'm learning myself I have a curly headed little boy which now since I'm going natural am learning how to take care of his hair bc it dries out so bad I do not want to use the same products if store bought on my daughters hair when I have her as I do my own unless I'm making them. Please elaborate.

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