Recently, I wrote an article that literally set off a slew of comments good (and bad) from people questioning the methods I used to get my daughter’s hair growing. While I always appreciate the comments, there is one lesson I want other parents who are learning to deal with their daughter’s natural hair to learn, Natural Hair Nazis need to take a seat. Being natural is not a cult where you HAVE to abide by certain rules or else you get kicked out. Being natural simply means you do not put a relaxer in your hair. It doesn’t matter if you wear your hair in an afro, straight or curly- you are natural. I don’t prescribe to hair types or beliefs that one ingredient will ruin a product. Instead I experiment and use trial and error. It may not work for everyone, but it’s work for my daughter and myself.
I initially made the decision not to put chemicals in my daughter’s hair because I saw the damage they had did to my hair and I wanted her to love her hair- something I didn’t learn to do until adulthood. So while I knew the journey would be difficult, I was ready to take on the challenge. Her hair didn’t miraculously start growing overnight. But when I became consistent in my practices, her hair started to improve. There were times when I was told by people to ‘just put a perm in it’ but I knew that I wanted her to accept her hair in its natural state. In the end, going natural allowed her hair to be healthy…… but not without a lot of trial and error on my part.
To further help you guys who are struggling to get your daughter’s hair to grow, I’m going to summarize some natural hair strategies that took me 3 years to learn. While these are specific strategies you can start doing today, remember that everything will not work for everyone. Here goes:
I mix it into my daily conditioning spray, I put a cap full in out conditioner and sometimes I even drink it. Aloe vera juice is a natural hair detangler and conditioner. I personally buy an all natural brand and it makes her hair soft, and gives it shine. Click here for a detailed review of one I use.
In the end, learning to take care of natural hair is a process. What works for me may not work for you. But when you do your research, you can rest assured you will start to notice a change in moisture and length in your daughter’s hair.
Now my BMWK family, do you have anymore questions about natural hair and our daughters? What do you do to keep yours or your daughter’s hair moisturized?