By Grace Pamer
Regular, ordinary, plain old marriage can be a big challenge from day to day for the partners involved. Just imagine then what challenges are faced by a married couple who are in a loving relationship who are forced to live apart for long periods of time. There are many reasons why some of us have long distance marriages, from military service to financial obligations, but they all have in common the difficulties of keeping the relationship going. It isn’t easy, as anyone with any experience with it can tell you, but it is possible to make a go of this situation. Here are 5 tips for making your long distance marriage a success.
Prioritize The Marriage
In the daily life of a married couple there are always choices to make. Partners have to establish priorities about how much time they will spend with friends and children, in activities they enjoy with or without their spouse, and with the partner. Sometimes these priorities start going wrong and the relationship suffers because the couple start to take each other for granted. In a long distance relationship, the marriage has to be the top priority – next to the reason it’s that way in the first place.
Make A Schedule
When two people are dealing with deadlines, travel plans and other things that might come up in a long distance relationship, they have to be organized. A schedule must be made and you have to decide you will stick to it, no matter what might happen in the meantime. The schedule is significant because it symbolizes the commitment to each other that continues over the miles. There can be little else as important as being together physically whenever possible.
Make Every Minute Count
When your schedule permits and you are actually in the same physical space, it is vitally important to be together whenever possible. Your time is limited, and if your relationship has been made a priority, and you have stuck to your schedule, then you owe it to each other to commit to romantic, passionate time together, and leave the socializing for other times and places. Make a pledge to yourself and your lover not to waste time that could be spent with each other.
Learn To Use Technology
The long distance marriage that has to not only survive but be successful these days has many more tools and methods to do so, thanks to advances in technology. With the Internet, computers, and smartphones, two people in distant parts of the country, or even the world, can stay in contact by word, voice, and even via live video. Daily interaction with each other no matter where you might be is a must, and with the means available today is easier than ever before.
Learn To Communicate
But the most important tip for having a successful long distance relationship is that you have to learn how to communicate. And I’m not talking about just using words here, but about optimally imparting information, expressing emotion, listening effectively, and being open and honest. When good communication happens in any marriage, the chances for success are much higher, but for a couple trying to make a success of a long distance marriage it is absolutely necessary. One way you can communicate and demonstrate your feelings at the same time is by writing a well thought out love letter — not only will this act as an incredibly romantic gesture, but your partner will appreciate the effort you have put into it.
Marriage can be a challenge under the most ordinary circumstances. The long distance relationship carries many more built-in hazards.
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Grace Pamer is the author of Romance Never Dies, a blog which gives insights into the art of putting together the best marriage proposal ideas and relationship advice. As featured in CanadianLiving.com, FoxNews.com, YourTango.com and many more.