The Blood, Sweat, and Tears in Marriage Are What Make It Work

BY: - 24 Jan '13 | Marriage

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Blood, sweat, and tears in marriage? You better believe it! Marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world, but don’t get it twisted. There will be bloodshed, you will get sweaty, and both the wife and husband will get all teary eyed. If that seems harsh, don’t worry, that is what makes marriage work.

I am almost willing to say if you have not bled, sweated, or cried then your marriage may not be the best it could possibly be. While we try our best to avoid them all, they are coming, but so are the greatest days of your marriage.

Sacrifice (Blood)

Before you go there, do not worry, nobody is getting cut! Bleeding in your marriage is about sacrifice. The union of two people from two different households, with two different upbringings means sacrifice is a must. One definition of sacrifice is “the offering up of something precious for a cause or a reason.

Your marriage is bigger than you, so sometimes you have to “take one for the team.” Until this happens in marriage, needs will go unmet. A marriage with unmet needs is one that may not last. But a marriage where sacrifice is how you roll, will be filled with two selfless individuals meeting needs and growing together.

Work (Sweat)

Did the word “hot” come to mind when you read that sub-heading? Well, it is the first thing that came to my mind. I pictured me running, working out, or just being outside on a hot humid day. Most of us have heard that great marriages take work. Sometimes you have to get down, dirty, and sweaty.

Marriage can act like a physical trainer. You will be pushed to points no human being has ever pushed you to. You will do things you never thought you could do. When you do, you will sweat, sometimes you will sweat profusely! Those of you who workout know when you reach that point you can expect great results. There is no playing cool in marriage, go ahead and put in work.

Release (Tears)

Tears in our bodies serve multiple purposes. The type of tears we are most familiar with are emotional tears.  Those tears come when we’ve experienced some emotional high or low. But think about how you feel before those tears come compared to after they are released. It feels good after.

Sometimes you just need a good cry. The tears in your marriage allow you to not hold on to things. It may hurt, but you are not intended to hold onto it. Let those tears flow, and release the emotion that triggered them. This frees you up, allows you to think clearer, and allows you to move to a place of healing in your marriage.

The Couple That Bleeds, Sweats, and Cries Together…Stays Together

This is not a one-way thing. Both spouses need to sacrifice, work, and release in marriage.  Until both spouses experience the three, you may not understand how they make marriage work. When you do experience them, you’ll know and not be as concerned when it happens again.

BMWK — Have you experienced blood, sweat, and tears in marriage? Please share how you handled it, and the result in the comment section below.

About the author

Jackie Bledsoe, Jr. wrote 62 articles on this blog.

Jackie is an author, blogger, and speaker who helps men better love their wives and lead their families. He is the creator of The 7 Rings of Marriage™. You can receive his latest BMWK posts in your inbox, plus his latest marriage and parenting posts from around the web by subscribing to his weekly newsletter!


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