Some people choose their spouse according to the amount of money they earn. That person ranks financial security at the top of their list of desired qualities in a mate. The money person may feel as long as he or she has the money to live comfortably and buy the things they want, when they want, their goal has been achieved. He or she may feel financial security is better than love because love cannot pay bills. If marrying for money is the primary goal, that person may not care if their spouse spends the majority of the time at work to provide the lifestyle they wanted in the first place. What happens when that person loses their job and can no longer provide the plush lifestyle?
Some people marry because they are about to become parents or are already parents. They may feel that marrying the other parent is the honorable and correct thing to do. Some people feel the children should live with both parents even if the parents do not love each other. Sometimes the parents can be pressured from family or even the other parent to marry. Marrying for the children can cause undue stress in the household and may prevent the parents from finding and marrying someone they truly love. What happens if depression creeps in because of the burden of marrying for the kids?
Some people marry their spouse because they love them and want to build a life together. They may feel that as long as they love each other, all will be well. The mates that marry for love may feel that marriage is the next logical step in their relationship. Once married, the couple may want to start growing their family by having children, some may chose not to have any children at all. When someone marries for love, they may believe that their spouse is their soul mate and there is no one else they want to spend their life with. What happens when the love is no longer felt?
No matter what your reason for getting married, keep God first. If you want the marriage to work despite the circumstances, it is going to take prayer and commitment. To the one who married for money; the bible says that God gives the ability to obtain wealth, and that He will supply all of your needs according to His riches and glory. To the one who married for the kids; the bible says to keep your mind stayed on Jesus and He will keep you in perfect peace. To the one who married for love; the bible says not to get weary in your well doing, because in due season, you will obtain what you want if you don’t give up. The bible has many “apps” for different issues you may face in your marriage. Do not give up and do not condemn yourself for your reasons for getting married. God is for marriage and no matter the circumstances surrounding it, remember with God all things are possible.
BMWK — Money, kids, and love are only a few examples of reasons for getting married; what was yours?