Are You A 5-Star Spouse? Here Is Your Test

BY: - 20 May '13 | Marriage

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We’re all familiar with 5-Star generals in the military and 5-Star ratings for movies, hotels and restaurants. But what we may not be as acquainted with is how to be rated a 5-Star spouse.

Generally, ratings are gathered by reviewers/critics who experience the properties, film or eatery. During the hotel and restaurant rating process, the service, graciousness, courtesy and thoughtfulness are all measured with the idea being to create a memorable experience for the guest. Although each of the above mentioned are rated based on the opinion of an individual or group of individuals’ personal encounter, our relationships are based on the opinion of our spouses.

What if marriage was measured on how well each spouse performed? If your individual performance as a spouse was rated, do you think you would receive a 5, 4, 3, 2 or 1-star rating?

If you’re not quite sure, read the following descriptions of each rating.

5-Star = Exceptional, Superior and the Ultimate experience
This spouse completely understands the concept of marriage. They are selfless and have committed to making their partner a top priority. The goal is to always provide the highest degree of service. In this relationship, you will find the majority of the key ingredients needed for a successful relationship. The ultimate sacrifices are made and this partner is willing to risk all for the sake of the marriage.

4-Star = Really, Really Good
This partner is aware of all the necessary strengths required for a healthy marriage and is actually putting forth a great deal of effort. Sometimes they may miss a few of the minor ingredients, but the marriage is still great and on track for future marriage success.

3-Star = Average, Mediocre, Nothing Special
Things could be better in this relationship. This spouse is doing the bare minimum to keep the marriage afloat. Unfortunately, we may not find this partner going above and beyond, or making serious sacrifices. This marriage happens to be mediocre at best, which is acceptable to this spouse.

2-Star = Below Average
This spouse is missing the mark. They are repeating the same behaviors although they claim to want a better marriage. They simply cannot get over themselves. This partner is not willing to make internal sacrifices no matter what they stand to lose.

1-Star = The Worst, Poorest
The marriage is definitely not a priority for this spouse. There may be a lot of blame shifting and a lack of love and respect. They have no desire of being a 4 or 5-star spouse. The service/attitude is poor with limited contributions. Unfortunately, if this partner doesn’t change quickly, their behavior will permanently damage this relationship.

The 5-star spouse may be rare, but it is a standard we all should be striving to obtain. If you aren’t quite there yet, don’t fret, cause neither am I. We must make it our mission to give our spouses the 5-star service they deserve. It requires denying the selfish attitudes and behaviors that prevent us from consistently delivering the highest quality of service.

BMWK, how would you rate your performance as a spouse?

About the author

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 343 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and a Career Coach/Trainer. She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Ebony Magazine, Essence.com and on the Michael Baisden Show. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two children. For more of Tiya's fearless life and love wisdom, visit her blog at www.theboldersister.com

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