Let me clarify…I’m not having a baby, nor is my husband. We’re Pregnant is a phrase often used today when a couple is expecting a baby. I completely understand the intent of the phrase to include both partners in the experience and joy of having a new little life enter their world as they become parents. Yet, are “we” actually pregnant? It’s one of those phrases that has good intent but really misses the truth. It’s noble for expectant fathers to desire to share fully in the experience and a wife to encourage that participation; however, it is a false statement.
- We’re having a baby
- We’re expecting and
- We’re going to be parents
These three phrases all speak to the “we” in the relationship, but stick with what is physically possible. By definition the word pregnant means carrying unborn offspring inside the body [Encarta Dictionary]. Today when catch phrases change as quickly as the seasons should we pick up on them in our marriages just because they are popular?
I took time to ask some men would they use the phrase we’re pregnant. I’m sure some men do, but all those I spoke with said no. Yet, the ladies I spoke with were alright using the phrase.
My children are far from babies, but I remember each pregnancy like it was yesterday. I was the only one to experience morning sickness, swollen feet and breast, and nine months of my body changing to resemble a cute round brown bear. It wasn’t my husband, although he was there for every moment and every joy. We share in the responsibility of conception, the care for mom, and the preparation for baby.
Men have watched their wife give birth going through excruciating discomfort, while they themselves felt helpless because they could not stop her pain. Delivering their little miracle after 9 months of incubation in mom’s womb is something that only she can do.
We’re not pregnant. This is one responsibility that solely belongs to mom.
Dad’s this takes nothing away from you but gives you opportunity to watch the strength, tenacity, and motherly instincts blossom right before your eyes as you help to care for your expecting wife.
Women we are used to sharing. We share our time, our food, our life with those we love [as do our husbands]. If you are a mom, you know there are times when you can’t even go to the bathroom by yourself. You share that space as well. However, the phrase “I’m Pregnant” and the miracle of having a life growing inside you is one you don’t have to share. It is yours all by yourself. Cherish it. Relish in it. It’s one of the most beautiful times of your life.
BMWK – If you use or would use the phrase “we’re pregnant” what are your thoughts behind it? If you wouldn’t use the phrase, “we’re pregnant,” why not?
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