We got this question over at our myspace page:
Are there any specific things you would say that told you that your husband/wife was the “one”? I’m getting to know this man and he’s very goal-oriented, funny, loves kids and has a big heart so it seems, but the down side is I’ve never actually met him face-to-face.
His View:
For me personally speaking I’d have to say that I had a feeling I never had before and was willing to do things I’ve never done before. Go above and beyond the call …

I got these questions in from one of our white readers:
I like the Obama stuff. I wonder why black folk embrace a man who:
A) is bi-racial
B) grew up attending private schools
C) comes from a semi wealthy family (not from the “hood” or “streets”)
as one of there own?
If he identified as white, do you think that he would have a following like he does, or would he be just another C. Powell. How about if he was running on a Republican ticket?
Here is my response …

Dear BMWK,
I am 29 and my bf is 29 and in the military. We are talking about marriage and he
brought up a sensitive issue, weight. I am 5′ 8 and I wear a size 14/16, I put on
weight within the last few years because of stress. Have you guys ever been faced
with the issue of weight and how did you handle it? Thank you for all of your help.
HER VIEW
I think it is a good thing that you and your finance are talking about this now….as opposed to after you …

A reader sent in this question to ask. Please comment back with your point of view and we’ll weigh in later today on this same post.
Her View
I think it is just a preference. Some people like to wear jewelry and some don’t. Personally, I love to wear my ring, it’s like I’m saying “I’z married now.” Plus I have too many kids to be walking around without that ring on
HIS VIEW
Unless you work doing something where jewelery may not make sense I don’t know why you …

This question came from one of our readers in the UK:
HER VIEW
Why did I get married? I got married for various reasons: we were in love, he is a good dependable man, he likes my kids…etc.. But I think the main reason I got married was because it felt right. There was nothing tugging at me on the inside …..questioning my decision. It was 100% yes, when he asked. Before I met my husband, I was in a long relationship for more than 10 years. Nothing felt right about …

One of our readers, Nicole asked this at the end of her comment on “how long is too long to be engaged”:But this is the question I want answered! Why does there seem to be such a high number of single black women vs. other ethnic groups? I’m sorry, I just don’t buy the whole the black men are in jail theory.
BTW I love this blog!
I’d like to hear what everyone thinks on this one, please add your comment or if you have a long story email it to …