A young woman walks into a room. Her mother announces that she’s getting married, and that is immediately met with a chorus of jeers and comments such as, “Don’t do it”, “Don’t make that mistake” and so on and so forth…
My question is, “Is Marriage Not Cool”? This type of thing seems like the norm. In the past year I had a coworker who got married and she confirmed what I already knew, that everyone was basically telling her it wasn’t going to work and how hard it was going to …

A reader sent in this question to ask. Please comment back with your point of view and we’ll weigh in later today on this same post.
Her View
I think it is just a preference. Some people like to wear jewelry and some don’t. Personally, I love to wear my ring, it’s like I’m saying “I’z married now.” Plus I have too many kids to be walking around without that ring on
HIS VIEW
Unless you work doing something where jewelery may not make sense I don’t know why you …

This question came from one of our readers in the UK:
HER VIEW
Why did I get married? I got married for various reasons: we were in love, he is a good dependable man, he likes my kids…etc.. But I think the main reason I got married was because it felt right. There was nothing tugging at me on the inside …..questioning my decision. It was 100% yes, when he asked. Before I met my husband, I was in a long relationship for more than 10 years. Nothing felt right about …

Got this today in an email forward today from my man Shaka. Let us know what you think about it. 
Communication Do’s & Don’ts:
#1. Focus on solving the problem instead of winning the argument.
If you’re not coming up with solutions you are not arguing right, instead you’re tearing up your relationship.
#2. Listen with an open mind.
Before you go off make sure you understand right. Repeat it back to them and let them clarify. Often times stuff just comes out wrong.
#3. Explain yourself. People do misunderstand.
#4. Respect your mate’s individualism.
They won’t believe …

Alright this is late and we’ve been meaning to do it for the past few weeks but congratulations to the husband and wife duo “Kindred the Family Soul” who had twins back on the 22nd. In a lot of ways their music is the soundtrack to this blog and was an inspiration for the vision of this site. They create real music that only a husband and wife dealing with real husband and wife issues could come up with so we say thanks for that. If you’re not familiar with …

This came from a reader in Philly:
Two of my “friends” had been sooooo persistent about my husband, and how much they did not like him….before we got married.
One of the girls even went as far to drop out of my wedding 3 weeks before the date (what was even worse she told me through text message). I called her and she told me through conversation that she couldn’t afford to be in the wedding and that she was worried that her mom had cancer…(she ended up being fine)
The next girl …

From Janks Morton - Creator of “What Black Men Think”
Some stats to consider:
over the age of 18
13.9 million BW
11.2 million BM
2.7 million unpartnered/uncoupled if every single paired.
BM die earlier (life expectancy)
BM/BW marry later
by the age of 18 there is already a 1/2 million partnering deficit. (even though at birth BM/BW ration is 1039/1000: More BM at birth)
and why is it that everytime someone references the plight of the SBW and expanding her possibilities, it has to be the executive/educated/power woman and the janitor/trash collector/auto mechanic brother. Stereotyped/stereohyped and perpetuated by the …

One of our readers, Nicole asked this at the end of her comment on “how long is too long to be engaged”:But this is the question I want answered! Why does there seem to be such a high number of single black women vs. other ethnic groups? I’m sorry, I just don’t buy the whole the black men are in jail theory.
BTW I love this blog!
I’d like to hear what everyone thinks on this one, please add your comment or if you have a long story email it to …

HER VIEW
I received an email from a reader the other day asking me how long did my husband and I date before we got married.  She said she was in her late thirties and had been dating a guy for more than 6 years..but he has not proposed to her yet.  He had various reasons for not proposing: needs to get himself together financially, wants to go back to school and make advancements in his career, etc…
I don’t think she wants to break up with him because she says he is a …

Melonie - In response to our post: The Great Driving Debate
I do most of the driving but that’s just how I feel the most
comfortable, especially on long trips. He will doze off and pretend like
he wasn’t tired or sleepy, so I would just say, “Baby pull over so we
can all stretch for a few.” When we all get back into the car I jump in
the drivers seat and keep it moving. Before I can get 2 miles up the
road, he’s sleep.