O-M-G, am I a Cool Mom?

BY: - 10 Jan '08 | Home

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I certainly feel like I am a cool mom, but I wonder what our 14 year old son thinks. When I was little, I did not think of my parents as cool parents. But now when I look through old family photographs, I think my parents were sooo cool. My dad’s Afro was perfect and his polyester printed shirts and dress slacks were coordinated to a tee. He had to be cool in that brand new Black Chrysler Cordoba which was nicknamed the Love Roller Coaster. And my mom, she was so fly…. her lip gloss was the shiniest and her outfits were the flyest…. the gauchos.. the riding boots… They had to be cool…I just did not know it.

But now-a-days with the rap music, the music videos, and 106 and Park, it is easy to stay in tune with what the youngsters are in to. I definitely can be caught “Cranking that Soulja Boy” around the house ( pregnant belly and all), I can shake it like Beyonce, and for my 6 year old….I think Troy from High School Musical is cute too. But right now, I really don’t care if they think I am cool. I am sure I lost many cool points the other day when I told my son he had 2 days to get that nasty fowl music off of his IPOD before I confiscated it or when I told him he could not wear shirts with skulls on them because we do not wear that type of  stuff in our house or when I tell him to come in the house before it gets dark because there is no reason for him to be hanging out in the streets after dark.

Check out the Ohio Players singing “Love Rollercoaster”

Check out this story from another totally uncool Mom:

‘Meanest mom on planet’ sells son’s car
After finding alcohol in her son’s car, she decided to sell the car and share her 19-year-old’s misdeed with everyone — by placing an ad in the local newspaper.
The ad reads: “OLDS 1999 Intrigue. Totally uncool parents who obviously don’t love teenage son, selling his car. Only driven for three weeks before snoopy mom who needs to get a life found booze under front seat. $3,700/offer. Call meanest mom on the planet.”   Click here to read the full story…

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Ronnie Tyler is the co-creator of BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and co-producer of the films Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, You Saved Me, Men Ain't Boys and Still Standing. The proud mom of 4 has been selected by Parenting Magazine as a Must-Read Mom and is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Bloggers.

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8 WordPress comments on “O-M-G, am I a Cool Mom?

  1. tdb7297

    I also saw that on the CNN.com website. I am a teacher of at-risk teens and I emailed the article to all my colleagues. What that mom did was absolute genius.
    I had a parent complain that her teenage sons would not listen to her, they would invite their loud, obnxious friends over to her house and eat all her food and disrespect her rules. I suggested some disciplinary things like take remove the tv. Her response? “Well, I wouldn’t have anything to watch”. Both sons ended up in juvenile detention centers.
    Parents, listen up…you may have to sacrifice something, something big, to teach your kids. Some life lessons are serious and require a bold, in your face message. I am sure that young man will not let anyone drink in his car again…even when he is 21

  2. Marty

    That’s funny. The lady selling her kid’s car is even better. Great to hear that tough parenting still exists even with cool parents.

    You know the only thing missing from your post? This “Love Rollercoaster” video clip from the Ohio Players from back in the day. Enjoy.

  3. One & Only

    My husband & I have 2 sons, both are from our previous marriage. My step son is 16 & he has lived with us & I have raised him since he was 6, with some input from his mother in the past few years. My son from my first marriage has been raised by my husband since he was 1. He is now 10. This site is a wonderful thing! We are a very happily married couple with well adjusted children, even though we have a blended family. Back to the topic! I think I am very cool, but of course my kids have their doubts about that! It is ok, I know I am cool!!! LOL!

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Reader Question: Why did we get married?

BY: - 11 Jan '08 | Dear BMWK

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This question came from one of our readers in the UK:

HER VIEW

Why did I get married? I got married for various reasons: we were in love, he is a good dependable man, he likes my kids…etc.. But I think the main reason I got married was because it felt right. There was nothing tugging at me on the inside …..questioning my decision. It was 100% yes, when he asked. Before I met my husband, I was in a long relationship for more than 10 years. Nothing felt right about it, I always had something way down inside telling me this is not right. But I did not listen, I thought I could change things…but of course that never happened. Regardless of what other people have to say about your partner, you should always listen to what your gut feeling is telling you. Also, I am glad that I was completely free of that relationship and all of the drama that came with it before I met my husband. When we met, the majority of the mess (drama) from breaking off that old relationship was over. Drama from an old relationship can really cause problems in a new relationship. But enough of that stuff…there are also some mushy reasons why I got married. From the beginning, my husband was a “sweetie pie” he is still my sweetie pie. He really took time to court me… flowers, candy, gifts… the works. We clicked from the beginning and we have pretty much the same values. By the second or third month, I was definitely IN LOVE!!! I would call my girlfriend that introduced us and say “he is such a sweetie pie” or ” I think I love him” and we would just giggle…like school girls. We dated for about 11 months before he asked me to marry him, In that 11 month time, we even broke up once or twice. But I am glad we did, because I even liked the way he handled that. I liked him, my family liked him ( which was important to me). So for me all things were in perfect alignment. When he asked me, I was totally not expecting it..but I did not hesitate to say yes. It just felt right!!!

HIS VIEW

She was the Alpha to my Omega, nah just kidding. I saw from our first date that we were on the same page. You know what they say about being evenly yoked. It makes it so much easier when you’re both on the same page as far as goals, faith, career, kids. A lot of times it doesn’t happen like that but this time it did so that immediately peaked my interest. As we talked more and more I realized she was who I wanted to be with. I took extra steps that I normally wouldn’t have taken, did things I normally wouldn’t have done and said things I normally wouldn’t have said. At the time I lived right outside of the southern tip of DC in Maryland. I wouldn’t date women that lived in the northern part of my county or the northern parts of DC (DC is only 12 miles wide) but here I was driving 2.5 hours on the regular in a long distance relationship. This clearly wasn’t my normal gig but when you find the one you’re willing to do things you normally wouldn’t do. That goes back to what I always say when you find the one it doesn’t take a few years for you to be convinced it’s her.

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