Saw this over on TheStateOf.com they had a post about Kanye West and his fiance Alexis Phifer breaking off their engagement. This statement followed:
TheStateOf . . . Engagement. Hey ladies, if you’ve been engaged to a guy for over a year and you don’t have a date set and the florist working overtime, leave that motherf*cker brotha alone. He ain’t gonna marry you; he’s just keeping you quiet.
BMWK fam this got me thinking. It even inspired me to write a follow up to the critically acclaimed (and one of our most popular posts) How Long Is Too Long To Date If You Want To Get Married?
So let’s get into it, how long is too long to be engaged? As you can see above, my man Big J from The State Of caps the limit at one year and you know what? I’m with him on that. Kinda sorta…. roughly a year is enough time but before I start reading the comments about I was in school when we got engaged and I wanted to wait and etc. etc. etc. there are exceptions to the rule but in general a solid year is enough time or in that ballpark. If not maybe your man just caved in to the pressure of marriage talk. I saw someone comment that “it ain’t an engagement until you have both a ring and a date”. How about that?
I was talking to a coworker today that said she knows a couple thats been together for seven years then they got engaged but the weddings not planned for another four years or something like that? Sounds suspect to me. If you’re getting engaged you should be able to come up with a date in the foreseeable future. I saw another comment that said if the engagement is lingering on forever then that person is trying to figure out if they really want to be with you and guess what, that should have been done before the two of you got engaged.
So… BMWK family what do you say on this one? Is a year too long, not enough or just right? In general terms how long is too long to be engaged and lets hear some of those stories we like reading so much.
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