by Tara Pringle Jefferson
Last week, in my “Marriage Counseling…for One?” article, I said that I had a good marriage, a strong marriage, but I still wanted to improve it. I still wanted us to take some steps to improve areas that I thought were lacking.
A few commenters gave me something to chew on.
A comment from The A read:
Have you considered if Great is the Enemy of Good Enough?
If you are at 80% in a strong marriage, what does 83% or 86% or 97% look like?
Now, I’m a natural, lifelong student, so to me, there is a WORLD of diference between 80% and 86%, for example. The difference between a B and a C. A B being a good marriage, but a C being average.
But I don’t want to get into assigning a number to my marriage. Rather, my point was about striving for something better, even if what you have is pretty good.
I am the type of person who always wants what is BEST, not second-best, not “good enough,” not average. But what is BEST. It is probably my most defining characteristic. My husband knows this about me – shoot, he even put it in his vows!
I want the BEST marriage that my husband and I can possibly have. And I still do.
But I do understand what The A and others were saying about enjoying where we are right now, and having fun getting to that next level. Their comments opened my eyes to the fact that, however cliche it is, marriage is a journey. I’m always focused on the destination, but I need to take some deep breaths and check out the scenery while we’re getting there. It’s a process, to be sure, but I’m looking forward to it with all my heart.
Tara Pringle Jefferson is a freelance writer and blogger living in Ohio with her husband and two children. Visit her blog, www.theyoungmommylife.com, to read more of her observations about life, motherhood and love.
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