Unfortunately, this week, my mom and I had to attend the funeral of a dear friend’s grandfather. As the family shared stories of their 93-year-old loved one, I was most moved by all that was revealed regarding his roles as father, grandfather and husband.
The discipline and lessons learned all demonstrated what a great parent he had been and a tremendous impact made on the children’s lives. But his commitment to 69 years of marriage left the most lasting impression on me. Observing the widow left behind, brought tears to my eyes. But knowing my friend and her family there is no doubt grandmother will be well taken care of.
As I focused on the pain she must be feeling of losing her love, I also try to imagine 69 years of marriage. The idea simply encourages me. I asked my mom after the service could she imagine being married for 69 years. Her response mirrored mine. Although she is a newlywed (recently remarried) she admitted to the need of pacing herself, as she said “Let me make it through 6 years and then 9 years and we’ll see.” I chuckled, but it made sense.
My husband and I are only 13 years in, and so far so great. I honestly admit we are becoming more improved with time. Our relationship is getting stronger because we both continue to mature and learn one another. We recognize what pisses the other off and because of that maturity we avoid those actions. And it works! God willing, I am confident that my marriage will go the distance.
Achieving 69 years of marriage is no easy feat. I consider all the trials and tribulations a couple must overcome during that time. As I have witnessed in our 13 years, it’s not always easy. The resilience one must have is amazing. In this particular marriage, they had to survive the death of a child and several health challenges. But it reveals a lot about a couple who can weather any storm and make it through to the other side. Having a marriage that strong is my ultimate goal. Sixty-nine years of marriage requires the ultimate commitment, sacrifice, compromise, communication, faith and most importantly unconditional love.
Another highlight for me during the service is when the wife mentioned (in the obituary) that it was 69 years and 5 months. After all that time together she remembered exactly how long she had been married to her love. It touched my heart and inspired me as well.
While, I know the widow is heartbroken now, I hope she can take comfort in the fact that together her and her husband achieved something monumental. Not only did they impact their children and grandchildren, but also those of us who were in attendance. I learned that love, family and faith are the fundamental ingredients for marriage success.
BMWK, what do you feel is needed to achieve 69 years of marriage?
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