Put Those Babies To Bed!

BY: - 7 Feb '12 | Marriage

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7:30 p.m. is when the magic happens. The sound of bathwater running brings about a euphoria that’s only topped by the one I feel at the end of my work day. That magic moment is bed time and I love it almost as much as my kids hate it.

I love my babies, but by the end of the day, I need some time just to be me. I need time to talk to my husband, eat a bowl of cereal, paint my toenails if I’m feeling froggish, or just sit and stare off into space without hearing “Can I have a fruit snack?” “I don’t understand this math problem,” or the ever popular and wonderful “Mommy, come wipe me please!”

I imagine that parents whose kids are burning the midnight oil must operate much differently than I do. For me, the kids’ bedtime is rescue time. At the most it’s a time to rescue my mind, my house and my time from the frenzy that the kids can bring, and at the very least, it’s a time to connect with my husband uninterrupted. And I need that rescue, every night.

Strengthen your relationship with both your spouse and yourself by getting those kids in bed long before you’re ready to turn in. I need at least an hour, but if you can’t get them in bed an hour earlier, give yourself enough time so that you aren’t putting them in the bed and then passing out immediately with no time for you. And don’t be afraid to be “mean” mommy/daddy when you do it either, because the truth is, they need the rest just as much, if not more than you do.

What time do your kids go to bed at night?

Get practical tips to keep your marriage hot when you’re short on time at Making Love in the Microwave.

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Aja Dorsey Jackson wrote 213 articles on this blog.

Aja Dorsey Jackson is a freelance writer and marriage educator in Baltimore, Maryland and author of the blog and book, Making Love in the Microwave.


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9 WordPress comments on “Put Those Babies To Bed!

  1. The Mrs

    Every night at 8:30 all 4 of our babies (10,9,6 and 4) are in the bed.  I’m with you. Night time is the right time for alone time over here. They get a little lenience on the weekends.

    1. Feline_43213

      It totally shifts. I have a 7 and 17 year old and the teen asked why do I have to go to bed when my baby brother goes? I thought, you have a point so we told her she has to “unplug from her cell phone by 9:30 and be in her room by 10:00 or so. ( we also don’t allow televisions in our bedrooms).

  2. Roshanda L. Sparks

    My daughter has been in bed by 7:30 since she was 3 months old. When I tried to push it back one half hour, it was not enough rest for her. So, 7:30 it is! It gives me time to study and prepare of the next day without having to “entertain her.”

  3. Bobbie

    Our bedtime is between 8:30 & 9 at our house.   Later than most, but my 6 y.o. doesn’t start school till 8:45 am, so that gives me a wake up at 7 and him 7:30 as opposed to 6 (or earlier) for most!

    It works for us; and I can have some me time at night, and some time to connect with my hubby too!!

  4. chrisplumm

    I’m often not even HOME until 7 or 7:30 so early bedtime is difficult for me to acheive for my 2 year old.   I would LOVE for her to be asleep by 8pm, but instead we’re usually pushing 9:30 or LATER!   I am that mom falling asleep minutes after putting my daughter to bed.

  5. Anonymous

    This is so true. I look forward to their bedtime, so I can relax from my day. And you’re right they do need the rest.

    So it’s without guilt that I ensure that their day ends at 8:30 p.m., which is when my personal time & my time with my hubby begins.

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Wedded Bliss: Nadine + Sean

BY: - 8 Feb '12 | Marriage

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Listening to the toasts of friends and family

Nadine has chronicled her path to becoming a Mrs. over at Black Bridal Bliss””everything from presenting a united front to the in-laws, to fitness tips for the bride-to-be. So now that she’s tied the knot, we’re so happy to feature their love story here at Black and Married With Kids.

Nadine and Sean met on BlackPlanet and hit it off instantly. (Yes, BlackPlanet.)

It didn’t take long for Nadine and Sean to realize they enjoyed spending time with each other. Simple things like going on walks together near a local lake became one of their favorite pastimes. “I knew he was special by our second date,” Nadine gushes. “I let Nay know right away that I wasn’t a baller and didn’t have a lot of money but not because I’m a bum but because I’m an entertainer and I’m trying to work with youth,” confides Sean. Nadine’s support of Sean’s creative passions were real. She allowed him to build a a studio in her apartment. He shares, “ Nadine paid attention to little things I like such as gummy bears.”I thought to myself, “˜Who am I kidding?’ She’s a keeper,” says Sean.

Check out the rest of their love story at BlackBridalBliss.com.


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