9 Things I Learned While My Husband Was Away

BY: - 15 Nov '12 | Marriage

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The day before Hurricane Sandy was scheduled to hit the East Coast, my husband left for what was supposed to be a two day business trip.  But, ended up being…well…9 days. It was bad enough that he had to leave!  But what made it even worse was that it coincided with what was rumored to be the worst storm to hit the East Coast in quite some time.

Call me a wimp…. but I don’t like storms. Actually, I detest them.  And, I especially don’t like being home alone with the kids during one. It took everything I had to not sneak myself and the kids into his luggage. But alas, I had to put on my brave face for the kids. Thank God our area wasn’t affected by the storm — no loss of power or flooding. I’d like to think that He heard my cries … I mean, prayers (*wink*).

To say it was a challenge to keep up with a schedule for a 1, 3, & 5-year-old would be a gross understatement. So when my husband walked through that door on day 9, a familiar Destiny’s Child song came to mind (*queue “Survivor” music*).

But there is always a lesson (or two…or 9) to be learned with any challenge, so here are a few of mine:

1. Thank God for Steve Jobs (RIP) and the invention of FaceTime!

There was something about being able to see my husband’s face when I talked to him that made me feel like he really wasn’t far away. There was a different kind of connection that made me feel like we were teenagers again.

2. I’m one lucky mom.

Even though they can be a bit of a handful, they are just as much a bunch of goofballs and they make me laugh myself silly. If I had to pick kids to get stranded with, I would definitely pick my own.

3. I’m an even luckier wife.

I hear so many stories of people that are married but might as well be single when it comes to parenting. Call me spoiled, but my husband is very hands-on with the kids, so I definitely feel it when he’s not around.

4. I’m not a supermom or superwoman…just a mom in charge (*wink*).

If I didn’t have the support of my family and friends, I might have crumbled under pressure. I know there are millions of single moms out there that do it on their own every day. So while I’m flattered to have been given these titles, I just felt like I was doing what was in my job description. When your co-worker calls out sick, you just have to step up to the plate and get the work done.

5. The kids are not any less messy, loud or disobedient when daddy is gone.

Nope, they have no sympathy for mommy. In fact, I think they took advantage of the situation.

6. The laundry will pile up and so will the dishes…but it’s ok.

I’m definitely not a neat freak. But I do get a bit…um…stressed when there is chaos and things get out of place. So I learned that I could either stay up all night cleaning and doing laundry, or get some sleep so I could try to keep up with the kids. Final score: Sleep = 2; Laundry = 0.

7. Learning to say “no” is that much easier.

When you’re a one woman show, you definitely learn how to pick and choose where to exert your energy. So picking dinner at home over a Chuck-E-Cheese birthday party is a no brainer.

8. God doesn’t make mistakes.

Not that I doubted this before, but I surely believe it even more now.  And, God knows that my mental state depended on my husband being by my side for this journey of parenthood.

9. Husband & wife make a great team.

I learned that even though I managed to keep the house together and keep the kids fed, my husband and I make one awesome team. I can’t imagine going at it on my own, and am so thankful that I don’t have to! At least until the next trip anyway…

 

BMWK – Sometimes it takes a short separation from your spouse to appreciate just how much they mean to you and just how blessed you are to have a partner in marriage.  Take some time to reflect on your marriage today and then let us know why you appreciate your spouse.

 

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Christine St. Vil wrote 146 articles on this blog.

Christine St.Vil is co-author of the Whose Shoes Are Your Wearing: 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. A happy wife to an amazing hubby of 8 years, and homeschooling mother of three, she teaches moms how to FLY (First Love Yourself). She uses her corporate background to work with women who are ready to start a new business, accelerate their career growth & design a life they love. She's on a mission to help moms to battle the mom guilt epidemic, so they can begin to put themselves first on their never-ending list of priorities.

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  2. julian

    What a great article! As a single Mom, I can still appreciate (probably even moreso) the importance of having a partner who is not only around, but actually engaged. It’s awesome to see couples like you who truly work as a team to raise confident, loving, well-adjusted children.

  3. DjRelat7

    Wow 9 whole days! Yes you were very fortunate to not get power down or flooding while your husband was away; that would have been extremely stressful with the children to also take care of. Its good when husband and wife work as a team!

  4. Anonymous

    Best comment “When your co-worker calls out sick, you just have to step up to the plate and get the work done.”

    I’m not a mom or a wife but I feel like I was going through every emotion with you as I read your story! No more business trips daddy!!! Great article!!

  5. John

    I think you deserve another vacation to St. Marten..I mean business trip lol. If my wife ever tries to leave me at home for more than 3 days with the kids I’m putting them on a plane to go meet her.

  6. Yvonne

    This article is awesome! Though I’m married with no kids (for now), I can appreciate the lessons learned as well as the importance of co-parenting with your spouse. All points are well noted in my memory. Kudos to you, your hubby and your beautiful children :).

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My Idea of Sexy – My Husband

BY: - 15 Nov '12 | Intimacy

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Just like any woman, I love eye candy. I love a clean shaven man with expensive smelling cologne, a nicely tailored suit and don’t get me started on the shoes…Oh the shoes! I also have all the respect in the world for a nicely chiseled body with muscles, dips and rips everywhere.   But I guess with maturity and of course, the love for my own husband, I realize that there’s a different kind of sexy that exists. Call me crazy, but there’s a lot to be said about a man who just finished helping his son with homework and is now reading his daughter a story while giving the baby girl a bottle. That’s what I call sexy!

He doesn’t have to be picture perfect or photo shoot fresh with baby oil over every square inch of his body (although that would be nice) for me to get excited. The fact that he’s a team player that is always willing to help me with the household duties and the affairs of the children….and find the time for me all while making sure that he is providing for this house, really means a lot. He does it all with kindness and sincerity and this man always has my back. That’s what I call sexy!

Just the other day, I felt exhausted because the kids were sick.  But, I still managed to nurse them, bake cookies and make his favorite meal. You should’ve seen me. I was looking a hot mess in a t-shirt and some sweats, but he thanked me…kissed me softly…and complimented me on the dinner. That made me feel like I was the best mom and the sexiest wife EVER! Now, THAT is what I call sexy!

I guess you can say it’s all about perspective. Don’t get me wrong, I still love to look at the Morris Chestnuts and the Darren Sharpers of the world. Its just that who needs all that when you have something that is tangible? Something that causes such an incredible reaction…All it takes these days is simply watching my husband take care of his business and knowing that I’m his girl. That, my friends, is what I call the new sexy!

BMWK – what makes your spouse ‘sexy’?

 

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Sheree is a wife and WAHM of three who passionately blogs about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY!

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