The Single Life: What Gift to Give Someone You Just Started Dating

BY: - 30 Nov '12 | Relationships

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When my friends and I were in high school, we wanted to be single in the summer. Why? Just close your eyes and picture pool parties and backyard barbecues.  Concentrate hard enough and you might even hear Will Smith’s “Summertime” lyrics blaring in the background. When winter rolled around, the weather changed and so did our status. We watched movies (in VHS players) and cuddled with our new boos in front of the fireplace, with our parents playing cards in the next room. If you didn’t settle down by December, Santa or Cupid wouldn’t visit you in homeroom with little trinkets, flowers, or candy-grams.  And if you weren’t coupled up by January, you would count down to the New Year without a kiss. My birthday also fell in February, so strategically speaking, winter was the ideal time of the year to enter into a relationship. Of course, my friends and I didn’t date just for presents. As a matter of fact, my parents wouldn’t let me accept gifts from guys, other than something small!

More than a decade later, as the first snowflakes fell from the sky this morning, the same feeling rose up inside me. It’s still nice to have someone stop by, this time with a bottle of wine and take-out, to watch a pay-per-view movie. And it is wonderful when someone scrapes the ice off your windshield, heats up your car, or drops you off at the front door when you can see your breath blowing circles in the air. I smile at the thought of a seasonal significant other.  However at this stage in my life, I wouldn’t dump the person when a summer breeze blows in. Instead, I’m even thinking about what types of gifts are appropriate to give someone you just started to date. And I need your help selecting something.

Here are several options that I came up with….check them out and let me know what option would you choose?

A. Give a Gift That Keeps on Giving

Is there a concert or play coming to town? Or is the person you date a sports fan? Is scoring tickets for two a great way to guarantee another date or a tad bit selfish, since you are benefiting (and assuming you should be the plus one)?

B. Take a Class

Is your date interested in the arts? Several cities offer classes where you can bring a bottle and paint a picture. You don’t have to be a Picasso to sign up. Or, if he/she likes sushi, there are lots of restaurants opening up their kitchen and teaching amateurs how to roll up fresh fish. Is this cheesy or creative?

C. Buy a Book or Album

Is your date an avid reader or a music lover? Is there a used bookstore with hidden gems like first edition prints or signed concert posters? Does your date like to eat a certain type of food? Perhaps purchase a Thai cookbook and promise to prepare a few dishes of his/her choice. Is this a good way to make a present personal?

D. Make a “It’s the Thought That Counts” Present

Should you create a coupon book that the person can cash in on things such as hugs, the remote control or a car wash? Does your date need help organizing a closet, assembling furniture or painting a spare room? Will this prove that money won’t buy you love, but maybe a grand gesture will?

After you buy the gift, would you:

A. Give the gift to the recipient regardless if he/she bought something for you in return.

B. Put it under your bed and have a ‘Sex in the City’ moment (i.e. When Carrie pulled out a Lois Vuitton handbag for her assistant played by Jennifer Hudson). You’ll have something on hand if you’re unsure a gift exchange is in your friend’s holiday plans.

Hey BMWK, what gift would you give? And what’s the best gift you ever received? If you just started dating someone, is it OK not to give a gift?  

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Heather Hopson wrote 59 articles on this blog.

Not long ago, Heather Hopson was an award-winning television host in the Cayman Islands. Today, she's writing a different kind of story as a new mom. She gives readers the key to her diary and shares personal stories about single parenting, dating, transitioning to motherhood and her obsession with being what her family calls an "activity mom." The site features celebrity interviews, parent spotlights and confessional videos. Follow her journey through motherhood on Twitter @dearmomdiary.


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  • Ronnie Tyler

    It was so awkward to be in a new relationship around Christmas…should you give a gift or not? How much should you spend…after all…you don’t want to send the wrong message with the gift that you select.

  • Issa@ Send Gifts to Bangladesh

    It is a totally confusing moment to choose a gift for a new one. No idea what would he/she like or not. To send gifts to some one is a difficult job.
    You have solved the whole thing.

5 Ways I Know My Husband Trusts Me

BY: - 30 Nov '12 | Communication

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5 Ways I Know My Husband Trusts Me

A spouse’s trust is sacred and should never be taken for granted. It takes time to develop genuine trust between a husband and wife because we all bring baggage from our childhoods or former relationships that can interfere with our ability to trust each other.

This January, my husband and I will celebrate 17 years of marriage. Over half of those were spent learning how to trust. Some lessons were harder and more painful than others, but through it all, we have entered an amazing season in our marriage where the trust flows smoothly. A part of our marriage maintenance work is to reflect regularly on the trust factor and to continue to grow. For my part, I’ve considered five ways I know my husband trusts me. Of course, there are more, but these are the five I share today in hopes that you might be encouraged. All marriages are different, so it’s not important that you trust like we trust. What’s most important is that you TRUST…period.

Here are the 5 Ways I Know My Husband Trusts Me:

1. He lets me cut his hair.

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No, I’m not a licensed or even semi-professional barber. But over the years, he’s taught me how to use his clippers. It began with an edge-up and now it’s a full-blown hair cut. It feels good knowing that he trusts me to make him look good because a jacked-up hair cut would be a crying shame.

I find that the more I submit to my husband’s covering in our marriage, the more he trusts me, not only with his paycheck or personal matters, but also with his life.

BMWK, what are some ways you know your spouse trusts you?

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Dr. Michelle Johnson wrote 75 articles on this blog.

Dr. Michelle Johnson is the founder of Alabaster Woman Ministries, an online international women's ministry. She is a wife, mother, writer, speaker, teacher. Through her daily blog, online radio show, and video Bible studies, Dr. Michelle encourages women and married couples to make God the center of their lives.


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